Dear Lucas,
As you approach your 21st birthday, I find myself reflecting on the shifts that lie ahead for you. What aspects of parenting still hold weight, and which ones have become as outdated as the toy car you used to race around the neighborhood? Now that you can legally enjoy a drink at a bar, how will our relationship evolve? Will my guidance still resonate, or will your newfound maturity lead you to tune me out?
Looking back over these two decades, it’s bittersweet to realize that your childhood has officially come to a close. While 18 signifies a transition, it’s 21 that truly marks your entry into adulthood—a time when you begin to carve out your own path as a man. I see glimpses of this transformation in you, memories of the little boy who adored dinosaurs and clutched a beloved blanket, now giving way to a young adult with dreams and aspirations.
I know you’re eager to embrace everything that lies ahead, and it’s important to savor each moment. Don’t rush through this year or the next—experience life as it unfolds. Consider it like the start of an exciting football season: there’s much to learn, and it won’t all happen at once. I see your impatience—believe me, I felt the same in my youth. So, take a breath and enjoy being 21.
As your parent, I consciously step back, giving you space to explore who you are, distinct from your father and me. I hope you discover your inner voice, shaped by your own values, your friends, family, and all the experiences that have led you here. I’m proud of the choices you’re making, trusting your instincts more than ever after years of seeking our guidance. You recently told your father, “I don’t have to share everything with you and Mom anymore,” and that’s when I knew we had done our job well. We’re always here when you need us, but I see you growing more independent.
There are moments when I miss that sweet little boy, the one with big eyes who looked at me like I was the world. Yet, my heart swells with pride for the man you are becoming. I can hardly wait to see what your future holds, but I will patiently watch as you navigate this next chapter—just as you should.
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In summary, as you step into this new phase of life, remember to cherish every moment. Embrace your independence while knowing your family is always here for you, cheering you on.