Every time I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror, I feel a wave of discontent wash over me. My stretch marks and extra weight seem to magnify, and after two C-sections, it feels like my belly will never look the way I want it to. I can’t help but feel repulsed by my reflection. I often find myself gripping my stomach, tears streaming down my face, my emotions choking me, but I can’t seem to stop the flood. It’s a struggle I wish I didn’t have to face.
“Mama!” my second child, Lily, calls out, her voice cutting through my moment of despair. She thinks I’ve vanished into another dimension if I take longer than a minute in the bathroom. Quickly, I wipe my tears, pull down my shirt, and open the door. She rushes in, bursting through like a mini superhero, a grin plastered on her face.
I made it back from the void.
As I step out, I see my eldest, Emma, carefully holding her younger siblings, the twins, who are just a month old. “They were crying, so I picked them up after finishing my homework,” she says, and I’m struck by the sight of her, only eight years old, managing these squirmy babies with such grace.
In that moment, a realization hits me: I feel a rush of happiness. I’m beginning to understand that my body, the one I’ve criticized so harshly, has accomplished incredible things. It has nurtured and brought forth four beautiful children. My body carried the twins for a remarkable 37 and a half weeks, defying expectations and keeping them healthy until the very last moment. An emergency C-section was necessary only because my body fought so fiercely to keep them safe. It protected my daughter during a car accident, enduring the impact while shielding her from harm. My body, in all its imperfections, did that.
How can I harbor such disdain for something that has achieved so much? Why allow the world’s standards to distort my self-image, leading me to spend hours berating myself? I’ve forced myself to eat foods I dislike while avoiding the ones I love, all based on misguided beliefs: that I’m not enough as I am, that I need to look a certain way, that my stretch marks are something to be ashamed of.
The market is flooded with creams targeting mothers like me, designed to make us feel embarrassed about the very marks our children have given us. It’s time to reject that narrative.
I refuse to believe I’m unworthy of feeling sexy. I’m done with the mindset that I need to change in order to validate my existence. I’m finished hiding behind layers of clothing and cropping photos to only showcase my face. No more self-consciousness when I step outside or look in the mirror.
Yes, I have extra weight, my stomach isn’t flat, and my stretch marks have their own stretch marks. But it’s not about conforming to others’ expectations. It’s about embracing my beauty as it is. Why waste precious time resenting a body that has done so much? Each stretch mark symbolizes the months I devoted to nurturing others. The hips my partner loves to hold once cradled four little lives. The fat on my stomach and thighs nourished my children when I struggled to eat. My body is a champion, deserving of admiration, not shame.
Hating my body is pointless. So instead, I’m reclaiming my worth and redefining what it means to be sexy. Sexy is every woman. Sexy is real. It embodies the unwavering love and commitment that comes with motherhood.
I am sexy just the way I am.
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In summary, it’s time to stop letting societal standards dictate our self-worth. Embrace your body, celebrate your journey, and redefine what sexy means to you.