Just One Child: Embracing Our Perfect Family of Three

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Facial expressions often distort when I share that I have just one child over the age of four. While friends and family usually respond with kindness and support, it’s the random stranger in line at the grocery store who tends to react the most dramatically. Their face contorts as they process my news, often leading to the inevitable question: “When are you planning to have another?”

They seem to hold their breath, eagerly anticipating a reply that suggests our family will soon expand to “And Then There Were Two.” But when I explain that we’re not planning to add to our already odd-numbered family, I can practically see the twitch of disbelief above at least one eye. Here are ten real responses I’ve encountered:

1. “Aren’t you worried she will be lonely?” (Yes, because I keep her locked in our house, shunning her from the world.)
2. “I once knew an only child who was spoiled rotten and impossible to be around.” (Oh, absolutely! I’ve never encountered unpleasant people with siblings.)
3. “I’m sure your mind will change as she gets older and prefers her friends over you.” (Right, because her sole purpose is to alleviate my loneliness.)
4. “Are you unable to have more?” (If I slap you on the back right now, will your scrunched-up face remain like that?)
5. “What about adoption?” (Sure! I heard Walmart has kids on sale now! I should rush in and pick one.)
6. “Well, I have five kids, and it’s been so rewarding to watch them grow. Just returned from a visit with my youngest—he’s in prison, but he’s learning a lot. My second daughter’s fourth husband lives with us along with his kids. They aren’t my daughter’s, but hey, a grandchild is a grandchild, right?” (And I see lane five is open.)
7. “When you’re gone, she’ll have a big job sorting through your things.” (How’s the sibling rivalry going over your dad’s estate?)
8. “Your daughter probably only connects with adults, huh?” (Yes, that’s why I have to drag her away from her friends at school every day. She just can’t stand being around other kids!)
9. “Does she get everything she wants? Must be tough going to Target.” (Oh, I didn’t realize that being a parent of one means I can’t ever say “no.”)
10. And my absolute favorite: “What if something happens to her?” (Hmm, I hadn’t considered having a backup plan. They’re all pretty much the same, right? If I collect enough backups, they practically come for free!)

Our decision to have just one child was intentional. We understand our limits and prioritize our quality of life over societal expectations. Our family of three feels complete, and that’s what truly matters. It doesn’t make my husband any less of a father, me any less of a mother, or our daughter any less of a daughter.

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In summary, our one-child family is not only perfect for us, but it also reflects our unique approach to parenthood. We embrace the joy of being a family of three, and that is what matters most.