Lately, I’ve stumbled across some amusing articles comparing the quest for new mom friends to the dating scene. There’s the gentle banter and compliments, the laid-back vibe in conversations to avoid coming off as uptight, and the effort to seem non-judgmental by listing things you don’t criticize—akin to a guy at a bar insisting he’s not the creepy type.
Now that we moms have cracked the code on making new friendships, it’s time to discuss what NOT to do when you meet that one mom who seems just right. You know the type: you both share a mutual disdain for Target yet find yourselves there anyway. You can’t get enough of those hilarious Angry Cat memes and you have a favorite coffee shop at the park where your kids play together. Everything seems perfect until you muster the courage to invite her to your girls’ night, and—surprise!—she ghosts you.
She’s just not that into you.
It’s like dating all over again, and just as in dating, you’re expected to be mature about it and move on to the next potential mom friend. So, if you’re committed to taking the high road, here are some tips for handling that awkward friend breakup:
- Avoid Facebook Stalking: Sure, “stalking” might be a strong term, but seriously, don’t check your friend request status 20 times. If it hasn’t been accepted, it’s a sign—she’s just not that into you.
- Don’t Complain to Mutual Friends: Bringing up how she seems distant or unfriendly with a mutual acquaintance isn’t a good move. Sure, it’s odd that she hasn’t been at your favorite coffee spot recently, but remember: she’s just not that into you.
- Keep It Classy at Events: Please don’t ignore her at kids’ games. You’re not a drama mama! She can see you standing there, chatting with everyone except her. Just say it with me: she’s just not that into you.
- Don’t Take It Personally: If you see her bonding with another mom at the playground, don’t let it sting. Maybe they clicked better. Perhaps you were trying too hard, or maybe she’s just not the right fit for you. Why dwell on the fact that a bad friend isn’t into you?
When I first heard the phrase “she’s just not that into you,” I thought, who would drop a friend so easily? Someone who wasn’t a true friend to begin with. It feels liberating to realize that the issue lies with her and not you. After all, she’s just not into you because she can’t appreciate how fantastic you are!
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In summary, finding mom friends can feel like dating, and it’s essential to recognize when someone isn’t interested in a friendship. Embrace the experience, and remember, it’s not a reflection of your worth.