My Sweet Girl,
One day, you might discover the wonders of the internet and search for me—or even yourself—and stumble upon this heartfelt list of wisdom I want to share with you. I could tuck it away in a box alongside your brother’s first lost tooth and that tiny piece of glass from another brother’s mishap, but let’s be honest: it would probably end up gathering dust and forgotten.
I’m not the typical mom who meticulously documents every milestone in a baby book, and I hope that when you read this, you won’t think, “Wow, my mother is so strange!” Instead, I hope you embrace these lessons. And please, for the love of all that is good, think twice before posting those half-dressed selfies online. Just don’t do it.
Lessons for You:
- While it’s important to carry yourself with grace, there are moments when you should break the mold. If you’re going to express your feelings, do it fully! Afterward, take a breath, fix your hair, reapply your lipstick, and move on.
- You are stunning. Embrace your unique beauty, but remember that your actions and words will define you far more than your looks. Invest enough time in your appearance to feel confident, and then focus on being the kind of person that others are drawn to.
- Be authentic. I deeply wish for you to feel at ease being your true self at all times. That person is incredible, so don’t hide her away.
- Beware of negativity from other women. Choose your friends wisely—surround yourself with those who uplift and support you. Find companions who make you laugh until you cry, and who are there to share your sorrows too. With friends like that, the critics won’t sting as much.
- Remember, haters will always exist. One day, you’ll find that their opinions matter less. Until then, it’s okay to feel hurt.
- You owe nothing to anyone. If someone makes you uncomfortable, do not hesitate to stand up for yourself.
- People may underestimate you, but I hope you find joy in surprising them with your intelligence. Pretty is common; being uniquely you is rare.
- Your father and brothers will likely create a challenging dating environment for you. Just know that any boy who wins their approval is truly special.
- If you like someone, go ahead and date him. Remember, dating doesn’t mean you have to marry him, even if he suggests it.
- You come from a lineage of strong women. I expect you to honor this legacy by discovering who you are and staying true to yourself, no matter the challenges life throws at you. When in doubt, refer back to point #3.
- Please, hold off on becoming sexually active until you’re truly ready for the responsibilities that come with it. Don’t think about having children until you’re with the right partner and, most importantly, keep learning and growing until you’re ready to support yourself.
- Even if you feel you’re not good at something, give it a shot. Eventually, you’ll find that special thing that brings you joy and suits your talents.
- If you’re unhappy with your current situation, make the change you desire.
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In summary, my dear daughter, embrace your individuality, choose your companions wisely, and always remain true to yourself. Life is full of lessons, and each one will shape you into the remarkable woman you are meant to be.