I apologize for gazing at you in the grocery store today. It wasn’t my intention to make you feel uneasy while you were checking out your cereal, diapers, and orange juice. You were simply stunning, with your long legs and flat stomach, dressed in clothes free from stains. I found myself wishing to embody your effortless beauty and perfection.
I’m sorry for looking at you during soccer practice this morning. I wasn’t judging you for being a bit late or for the way you called out to your kids as they tumbled out of the minivan, still putting on their shoes. I noticed the absence of your husband and wedding ring, and I wanted to offer my support, but I didn’t know how to do so without offending you, especially with my husband standing nearby. Your strength amazed me as you stepped up to fulfill both parenting roles when your partner was missing, both in the game and in your family life.
I apologize for staring at you at urgent care last week. I wasn’t concerned about your child’s runny nose or cough being contagious—well, maybe just a little. But more than anything, I could see how exhausted you were from worrying and waiting all night, regretting not leaving work early to take her to the pediatrician. I just wanted to reach out and say, “It’s okay; you’re doing your best, and that’s more than enough.”
I’m sorry for staring at you in Babies ‘R’ Us yesterday. It wasn’t my intention to become one of those people who inappropriately touches a stranger’s pregnant belly or shares unsolicited advice about baby gear. You reminded me of myself six years ago, filled with joy, discomfort, and a hint of apprehension. I wanted to share my experiences to ease your journey, like how peepee teepees don’t work as advertised or how essential those little newborn mittens are. Most importantly, I wanted to reassure you, “You got this. Trust your instincts and cherish this time. Before you know it, you’ll be reflecting on how exhilarating and daunting it all was.”
I apologize for staring at you at the park on Tuesday. I didn’t mean to appear as if I was trying to take your baby—rest assured, I have three of my own! I simply missed the days when I could give my full attention to one little person. I recalled how overwhelming it felt then, as I took on my new role with utmost seriousness. I wanted to say, “Relax, you’re doing great,” but I know how irritating it can be when well-meaning moms share that advice.
I’m sorry for staring at you in the OB/GYN office last month. I didn’t mean to cause you pain when I instinctively clutched my pregnant belly after seeing tears fall onto your ultrasound photo. I longed to comfort you, to let you know, “I’ve been there, and I understand your hurt. This too shall pass.”
I apologize for gazing at you in the coffee shop earlier today. I didn’t want to make you feel uncomfortable while enjoying coffee with your grown daughter. I was simply admiring the wisdom etched into your face and how gracefully you wore your cotton cardigan. Despite my attentive stare, you smiled warmly at me. I found myself wondering about your life experiences and the stories you could share. I hoped your daughter recognized the invaluable wisdom sitting across from her, the lessons she could learn if she listened closely.
I’m sorry for staring at you in our living room this morning. I didn’t mean to catch you in the act of perhaps trimming the cat’s fur or hunting for hidden Easter candy. I was simply in awe of how sweet you are with your brother, and how anyone could possess eyes as beautiful as yours. You were once small enough to fit inside my belly, and it struck me how proud I am of who you are becoming. I was lost in thoughts about your potential and the boundless dreams I hold for you, grateful to be your mother.
In Summary
It’s easy to get lost in admiration for the people we encounter in our daily lives, whether at the grocery store or during parenting duties. Each moment is a reminder of the beauty, strength, and experiences we share as we navigate through motherhood and life.
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