To My Dearest Daughter,
As you approach your eighteenth birthday, I find myself reflecting on the journey we’ve shared and the adventures that lie ahead. Remember the mom who used to be your superhero? Well, as you navigate the tumultuous waters of your teenage years, I might seem more like a villain. If you’re anything like I was at your age, you might be rolling your eyes at my advice and trying to ignore me completely.
I’ll be going through my own changes around the time you’re experiencing yours—let’s just say we might both be a little crazy! So, I thought it was wise to jot down some thoughts for you now, before we find ourselves in a full-on standoff. And hey, if we end up being best friends, we can laugh over a pint of ice cream about how I had to write this letter in the first place.
Before you spread your wings and leave home (and I’m probably locked in the bathroom, wallowing in my emotions), here are a few nuggets of wisdom I want to share with you about early adulthood:
Let Loose, But Stay Safe
First off, don’t be afraid to let loose every once in a while. Some of my best memories come from nights spent with friends, maybe enjoying one too many cocktails. Just promise me you won’t do anything reckless while you’re having fun. Avoid walking home alone, never drive under the influence, and steer clear of any romantic encounters that might lead to regrettable consequences. Trust me, a hangover is manageable, but waking up with an unexpected souvenir? Not so much.
Cherish Your Friendships
Also, cherish the friendships you build in your twenties. You’ll find yourself out and about, laughing on couches, and creating memories that will last a lifetime. In the years to come, those carefree moments won’t come as easily, so soak it all in while you can. And no, changing diapers doesn’t have the same bonding effect as sneaking off to pee in an alley (not that I’ve ever done that!).
Your Career Path
Now, let’s chat about your career path. Choosing something you’re passionate about is vital, but it’s equally important to consider flexibility. If you dream of having a family one day, it’s wise to look for a job that allows you to work from home or set your own hours. There’s no such thing as a part-time surgeon or investment banker. While I’d absolutely beam with pride if you became a heart surgeon, I also want to make sure I can babysit your little ones without a hitch.
Relationships and Growth
And speaking of relationships, you’ll likely encounter a few not-so-great partners along the way. They might break up with you via text or betray your trust in other ways. Remember, every experience teaches you something about what you truly want in a partner. One day, when your body changes (and believe me, it will!), you’ll want someone who sees you as beautiful, no matter what.
Always Here for You
Lastly, even during those times when you might not want to talk to me, know that I’m always here for you. No matter how difficult things get, you can share anything with me. I may want to strangle you sometimes, but I promise I will always support you. I love you, and I’m excited to see the person you become.
XOXOXOXO
With all my love,
Mom (or whatever name you’ve decided to call me by now)