It’s increasingly common to see large families out and about, and while we enjoy our time together, the comments we receive can be a bit much. Honestly, the next time someone asks a ridiculous question, I might just snap and use a cantaloupe as my weapon of choice. In an effort to maintain my composure and avoid a scene in the grocery aisle, here are some questions you really shouldn’t ask a large family:
- “Are you a circus act?”
No, we’re not a sideshow attraction. If we were, I’d be making a lot more money! Yes, we have five kids—congratulations on your counting skills. - “Planning to outdo the Duggars?”
Oh, the humor! As if I haven’t heard that one before. Honestly, my goal isn’t world domination through cloning; I simply enjoy having a big family. - “You really should learn to say no!”
Excuse me? Have you met my husband? The assumption that I’m overwhelmed by his charm is just plain odd. Maybe I’m the one being persuasive here! - “Don’t you understand what causes that?”
Absolutely, and we’re quite adept at it, thank you very much! - “Were they all intentional?”
What a question! Did you plan to be so rude? My reproductive choices are private, and it’s perplexing that they matter to anyone else. - “Are you very religious?”
Just because we have a big family doesn’t mean we fit a stereotype. People can want many kids for all sorts of reasons, including simply loving parenthood. - “Why didn’t you give some up?”
They aren’t stray animals! One of my friends once joked, “We’ve enjoyed a few dinners together.” - “How do you afford them?”
Oh, they take turns eating. Plus, we save on beds by using dog crates instead—just kidding! - “I could never manage that many kids!”
Good! Please don’t! - “You’re done having kids, right?”
Why do you want to know? Are you planning to fund their education? If not, it’s really none of your business.
The most irritating comment, however, is, “You poor woman!” Sure, my life is hectic, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I adore my family and wouldn’t change a thing. Large families aren’t for everyone, but they certainly have their joys.
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Summary
Large families often face intrusive questions that can be frustrating. From assumptions about why they have many children to comments on their lifestyle choices, these inquiries can be quite annoying. However, what truly matters is the joy and love that comes with raising a large family.