First off, I want to reassure you: you are NOT:
- Crazy
- Alone
- Failing at motherhood
Remember how anxious you were about childbirth? You told yourself it was okay because countless women have navigated this path before you. Well, let me tell you, countless women have also felt exactly what you’re feeling right now. I may not know your specific thoughts, but I assure you that many of us have faced the overwhelming challenges of being a first-time mom. Yes, you anticipated some difficulties, but you probably didn’t expect it to be THIS intense.
And what about those seemingly perfect moms on social media? You know, the ones who rave about how they adored every moment with their newborn, including changing diapers and waking up at all hours? Here’s the truth: they might be embellishing their experiences. Perhaps they’ve forgotten what it was really like, or maybe their minds are protecting them from the chaos of those early days. Honestly, having a newborn can be incredibly tough.
Hold on for a second while I prepare for the judgment from those supermoms. Alright, I think I’m safe for now.
Let’s be clear: newborns are truly wonderful. Their tiny toes, the sweet smell of their little heads (just avoid the other end!), the way their tiny fingers grasp yours—those moments are pure magic. But let’s not sugarcoat it. I can vividly recall when I welcomed Mia into the world. The first couple of weeks were manageable because she mostly slept. I thought we hit the jackpot! But then, oh boy, things changed. No one gave me a heads-up about the reality of parenting a newborn. During my pregnancy, I was in a bubble of bliss, so who would dare pop it with the harsh truth? People joked about sleeping while you can, but they should have warned me that life as I knew it was about to shift dramatically.
Have you ever seen a dramatic movie where a POW is tortured? They’re kept awake by loud music—well, that’s basically what having a newborn feels like. Instead of an interrogator, you’re dealing with a tiny human who demands your attention every few hours (if you’re lucky), and the only way to soothe them is by showering them with kindness. And guess what? They’ll wake you up again and again for more of the same.
Then there’s the whirlwind of hormones whirling around your body, making you feel like a human pinball machine. If you’re breastfeeding, your nipples might feel like they’re on fire; if you’re not, your breasts might feel like they’re about to burst. Plus, let’s not forget the well-meaning advice from family and friends that can feel overwhelming.
I just wish someone had told me the truth about the early days of parenthood. It would have made me feel less isolated, less like a failure, and more aware that things do eventually get better—well, not easier, but different.
So, here I am, reaching out to congratulate you on your new baby! Cherish these moments, and by cherish, I mean survive them. Know that you’re not crazy, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not doing a bad job, even if it feels that way sometimes.
With love,
Someone who’s been through it all and now has a solid birth control plan, even though I adore my kids!
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Remember, you are not alone in this journey.