When I was a kid in the 1980s, movies were my escape and joy. Today, I still cherish them. My 9-year-old daughter, Mia, enjoys them too—though it usually requires some coaxing. Our movie nights consist of cozying up on the couch, popping popcorn, rummaging through my secret candy stash, and of course, enjoying some soda (my nomination for Father of the Year is in the mail). Once the lights go out and the film starts, it transforms into a delightful bonding experience, even if I end up giving her foot massages. It’s a quirky connection, but it counts!
For much of her early childhood, I didn’t have the luxury of choosing the films we watched together. My suggestions often went unheard—until recently. After she watched Sing on TV and loved it, she began to take my recommendations more seriously. Now, I’m excited for us to catch Sing 2 together! But shh, it’ll be our little secret.
If you’re a fellow Gen Xer, you probably have a selection of films that defined your childhood and are now embedded in your very being. You can likely still recite lines from them. I hope to share these beloved classics with Mia, even though I brace myself for the possibility that they might not resonate with her as they did with me. Have you ever shared a film you adored only to hear, “It was okay”? The heartbreak!
Initially, I aimed to focus solely on the 1980s, but a few gems from the early ’90s snuck onto my list. Here are ten movies I look forward to sharing with my daughter.
Movies to Watch Today
- Free Willy (1993): Finding friends in unexpected places.
I reluctantly agreed to see this film on one condition: my friend Sarah promised to keep it under wraps. But let me tell you, it was fantastic! A boy befriends a killer whale—what’s not to love? Mia has a soft spot for animals, and the ending might just bring a tear to her eye. - The Goonies (1985): Dream big!
Can you believe it’s been nearly 40 years since its release? This film is the quintessential adventure flick, where a group of kids goes on a quest to save their neighborhood. It makes me crave Baby Ruths every time! - E.T. (1982): A tale of homesickness.
I remember crying during my first viewing. Watching a lonely boy help an alien find its way home is an emotional rollercoaster. It’s a poignant reminder that, like Dorothy said, there’s truly no place like home. - Big (1988): Don’t rush to grow up.
Every child dreams of becoming an adult quickly. This movie beautifully illustrates how becoming grown-up isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, thanks to Tom Hanks’s unforgettable performance.
Movies for a Few Years Down the Road
- Stand By Me (1986): It’s about the journey.
Adapted from Stephen King’s novella, this coming-of-age story perfectly captures the complexities of growing up. It’s a reminder that life’s not always easy. - The Outsiders (1983): Breaking stereotypes.
This film delves deeper than class differences. It humanizes those often labeled as “villains.” Remember, “Stay gold, Ponyboy, stay gold.” - The Breakfast Club (1985): Perception versus reality.
This iconic film speaks volumes. I imagine Mia will relate to each character in her unique way, which is precisely the film’s brilliance.
Movies for Later on
- Heathers (1988): The darker side of popularity.
This was my introduction to indie films! It’s quirky, fun, and insightful, showing us that everyone struggles with insecurities—though no one wants to admit it. - Fast Times at Ridgemont High (1982): Timing matters.
I debated including this classic due to its mature themes. But I’ve devised a plan: right before the pivotal scene, I’ll conveniently step out of the room. It’s too iconic to skip. - The Silence of the Lambs (1991): A chilling classic.
Some might question my parenting choices here, but I’ll wait until she’s older for this one. It’s a brilliantly crafted film that makes you think twice about accepting help from strangers.
Honorable Mentions: The Karate Kid, Coming to America, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Top Gun, Gremlins, Poltergeist, A Nightmare on Elm Street, Sixteen Candles, Raising Arizona, Aliens, Ghostbusters, Back to the Future, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, The Shining, Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure.
Just so you know, I’ve never seen Dirty Dancing.
In summary, introducing my daughter to these films offers a unique opportunity to bond over shared experiences, lessons, and nostalgia. I hope she finds joy in them just as I did.