Updated: August 20, 2015
Originally Published: April 20, 2015
Turning 40 can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions. Some days, it feels like a natural progression, and certainly better than the alternative—well, you know. Here’s a light-hearted look at the seven phases of hitting this milestone:
- Shock/Disbelief. You sit there, wondering how you got here. Wasn’t it just yesterday you were in your 30s? How did these kids appear? Are they really mine? Who swapped my youthful physique with what I can only assume is my mother’s? Why am I bombarding myself with these questions?
- Denial. No way are those kids mine! I’m far too young for that. Although, it does explain the not-so-perky assets and the gray hairs popping up everywhere. I’m still cool, right? Do people even use the word “cool” anymore? Is this grocery trip in pajamas?
- Anger. Enough is enough! I’m going to indulge in adult beverages and binge-watch every classic teen movie. Shots of Jell-O and Kamikaze? Count me in! I’m still spry—I can do a cartwheel! What 40-year-old can say that? Maybe I’ll even have a fling with that guy who’s definitely not my husband because surely I’m too young for that commitment.
- Bargaining. Please let this be a mistake! If I can just rewind a few years, I promise to volunteer, exercise regularly, and even run a marathon for dogs with identity issues. I’ll participate in a triathlon for senior cryogenic research—whatever it takes to buy me some more time.
- Guilt. Have I truly squandered it all? What have I accomplished in the first half of my life? Why didn’t I aim higher? What kind of mother am I? Is that my child with one thumb in his mouth and the other down his pants? I really wasted too much time glued to the TV—did I really watch every single season of The Real World?
- Depression. I’m feeling low; perhaps another drink will help. Maybe I should spend a weekend watching every Lifetime movie or re-watching the original 90210. Those new kids don’t even compare! Am I still youthful? I guess I’ve transitioned from girlhood to womanhood.
- Acceptance and Hope. Okay, this isn’t so terrible. Age really is just a number, right? I might have a few imperfections, but we all do. I’m going to embrace what I have. Every woman I know is in the same boat—or worse. Sure, some celebrities look amazing, but that’s what airbrushing is for! I can do push-ups, and honestly, I feel good. This 40 thing? I’ve got this—unless I’m having an anxiety attack or a nervous breakdown. But I can’t be 40, can I?
For more reflections on age and the journey of motherhood, check out this post. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone in this journey. If you’re exploring options for growing your family, this guide can provide some insights. Additionally, for statistics and information on pregnancy, the CDC offers valuable resources that can help you navigate this phase of life.
Summary:
Turning 40 can evoke a wide range of emotions, from disbelief to acceptance. While it may feel daunting at first, embracing the changes and finding humor in the situation can help ease the transition. Remember, age is just a number, and every stage of life brings its own unique experiences and joys.