Boys will be boys. It may seem like a simple statement, but it holds profound truth. Boys and girls are inherently different—not just physically, but also emotionally and psychologically. The essence of a little boy is characterized by an adventurous spirit filled with a desire to touch, create, dismantle, wrestle, and express affection. My son, for instance, is a cuddly little fellow who loves to snuggle at night. He showers me with gifts like pine cones and comforts me when I’m feeling down. He’s a true gentleman, yet also a wild little adventurer.
He thrives in rough-and-tumble play, whether it’s tossing sticks, launching rocks, splashing water, or engaging in a spirited game of tag. His laughter can be quite loud—his dinosaur roar is enough to make the littlest ones jump! I’ve noticed how people react to his behavior, often casting us sidelong glances as if we’re troublemakers who’ve escaped from a zoo, disrupting their perfectly composed children. More often than not, those well-behaved little ones are girls. Comparing boys and girls is as futile as comparing apples to a bicycle—there’s simply no point.
I understand that discussions surrounding gender can be sensitive. While I appreciate that there are gray areas, there are also clear distinctions. One surprising aspect of motherhood for me has been the number of times I find myself apologizing for my son simply being… well, a boy.
I recognize that there are mothers out there with quieter, more sensitive sons who might roll their eyes at the notion that gender influences behavior. I get it; I once held similar beliefs. And mothers of daughters may read this thinking that if I were only a better parent, my son wouldn’t behave this way. I’ve questioned the authenticity of my boy’s nature myself.
As a girl who was more reserved and anxious, I often watched in disbelief as my son engaged in rough play. He has unintentionally bumped into others while trying to interact or used a pool noodle as a sword during chase games. I can see why onlookers might think something is off with us.
A significant part of the issue, in my view, stems from society’s discomfort with unstructured play, physical interaction, and exuberant activity. Children often don’t need an adult’s constant oversight or to be kept at a distance from their peers. It’s perfectly normal for my son to be boisterous, just as it is for your child to seek quieter activities. Each child is a unique individual.
Two summers ago, I took my then 2-year-old son to a sand and water party hosted by a friend. I thought it would be a fantastic opportunity for him to have fun and get messy. There was only one other child present, a lovely little girl who meticulously crafted sandcastles while my son joyfully plopped into a water pail, covering himself in sand. The host, visibly taken aback, asked if I wanted him to play that way.
Looking at my son, I saw pure joy radiating from him, and I responded with a firm, “Yes, I do. That’s exactly what I want for him.” While she acknowledged his happiness, her focus shifted to the cleanup, which seemed trivial to me. I began to wonder if our reluctance to allow children to engage in rough play stems from our own convenience rather than genuine concerns about behavior.
As someone who studied Gender Studies and Child Development, I worry that our boys are suffering because their natural inclination is to be loud, fast, and messy. Girls should be considered too, as they also have the capacity for rambunctiousness. However, girls often receive more leeway for rowdy behavior, as it’s perceived as out of character for them—there must have been some provocation.
When we tell our boys to “calm down” or “keep your hands to yourself,” we inhibit their innate instincts. If they roughhouse and accidentally bump into another child, they might be labeled as “bad” when they’re simply exploring their world. It’s essential to recognize the difference between playful behavior and bullying. Rough and tumble play is vital for development, and we should encourage it rather than stifle it.
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In summary, we need to embrace the unique qualities of boys—encouraging their rough play rather than suppressing it. It’s all about fostering an environment where children can thrive, be themselves, and grow without unnecessary constraints.
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