I once knew a woman named Jenna who constantly complained about her job, even going so far as to hope she’d be fired. I gently reminded her that the colleagues she was venting to might one day work for a company she hoped to join, and they could easily share her negative sentiments with a future employer. It’s a small world, after all!
There are several statements to avoid in the workplace, and surprisingly, many of these apply at home as well. Here are five phrases you should think twice about before saying out loud:
1. Avoid labeling others as incompetent.
At work: It’s easy to notice when someone isn’t performing well, but unless you’re in a position to help, it’s best to remain silent. Criticizing a coworker only reflects poorly on you, making you seem insecure or unkind—attributes no one wants to be associated with.
At home: Never discuss other parents in front of your kids. They can be like little sponges, soaking up and repeating anything they hear. You don’t want to risk your child saying something awkward like, “My mom thinks your dad doesn’t know what he’s doing!”
2. Think twice before friending everyone on social media.
At work: I’ve seen some of my colleagues post absurd things on Facebook, from complaints about hangovers to sharing their side projects during work hours. Remember, the internet is forever, and inappropriate posts can lead to serious consequences.
At home: Be cautious about connecting with your kids’ friends’ parents online. In my community, gossip spreads like wildfire, and I prefer not to complicate my family’s relationships by sharing too much on social media.
3. Keep desires for others’ possessions to yourself.
At work: If you’re eyeing a colleague’s position, it’s better to keep that to yourself. Expressing envy can create an uncomfortable atmosphere and push others away from you.
At home: Longing for another family’s lifestyle or assets? Keep those thoughts private. Such comments can come off as unsettling, making others uncomfortable, and you might find them dodging your conversations.
4. Refrain from sharing your love for indulgence.
At work: Conversations about your after-work partying habits might seem harmless, but they can lead to reputational damage. You don’t want your coworkers questioning your professionalism.
At home: It’s surprising how many parents face backlash for admitting they enjoy a drink after a long day. While enjoying a glass of wine might be your way to unwind, it’s wise to keep this information to yourself to avoid unsolicited opinions on your parenting.
5. Steer clear of heated discussions about politics or religion.
At work: As a spirited New Yorker, I sometimes find these topics hard to resist. However, sharing strong opinions can unintentionally offend those with differing beliefs. Respect and discretion are key.
At home: Let your kids know that discussions about faith or politics shouldn’t be shared with their friends. My husband’s Christian beliefs and my atheism have sparked lively debates at home, but I learned the hard way when my daughter announced to her friends, “Mommy hates God.” That’s not the impression I want to create!
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In summary, being mindful of what you say at work and home can help maintain your reputation and foster healthy relationships. Avoiding negative or controversial topics not only promotes harmony but also ensures you are seen as approachable and respectful.