As a working mother, I’ve encountered a variety of comments and questions that can feel intrusive or judgmental. While I understand that these remarks often come from a place of curiosity or concern, they can sometimes be disheartening. Here’s a lighthearted look at ten things you might want to reconsider saying to a mom who balances work and family life.
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Isn’t it too expensive for you to work?
Let’s think about this for a moment. If I work, it’s often because I contribute to paying the bills—like the mortgage or groceries. When you question my financial choices, it can turn awkward quickly. Plus, I work for reasons beyond just money. I want to model for my children that women can pursue careers while managing family life. So, let’s skip this topic. -
I wish I could escape my kids for a day!
If you really feel that way, I’d be happy to assist you in finding a job. But just so you know, working away from home comes with its own set of challenges, and it’s not a vacation. Picture a triathlon, where you juggle meetings, school calls, and grocery lists while racing against the clock—it’s not exactly relaxing. -
I’d miss my child too much to be away all day.
I get it; the first few days can be tough. But eventually, you adapt. It’s all part of the journey of motherhood. -
The real issue today is that not enough moms are home with their kids.
I hear you, but are you advocating for better policies like paid parental leave or flexible hours for parents? It’s not just about moms staying home; it’s about having options that work for families. -
Why have kids if you’re going to let someone else raise them?
This is a common question that feels harsh. I didn’t become a mother to hand off my responsibility. We’re very involved in our children’s lives, and we cherish the support we receive from family and caregivers. -
It must be incredibly hard to balance everything.
You’re right; it can be challenging! But parenting is hard for everyone, whether you’re at home or at work. It’s a rewarding yet demanding journey. -
You must be super organized!
I wish! Yes, I try to stay organized, but I’m often one lost set of keys away from chaos. Like many, I juggle multiple tasks with varying degrees of success. -
You can always work later; these early years are so special.
Every year is special! It’s not just about the early years, and let’s not forget: fathers should hear this too. -
You look really tired.
Thanks for that! Perhaps a spa day is in order? But in reality, a little empathy would go a long way. -
At least you cherish every moment with your child.
Honestly, some moments are far from magical, especially when I’m wrestling with bedtime routines. But yes, I truly value my time with my kids, albeit with some chaos sprinkled in.
And to answer your underlying concern, yes, I worry about missing out on moments. But when my child runs to greet me after school or cuddles with me in the morning, I know we’re doing just fine.
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In summary, while working mothers face unique challenges, it’s important to foster understanding and support rather than judgment. Our choices as parents are deeply personal, and a little empathy goes a long way.