While we often overlook the mundane tasks that keep our homes in order, these daily chores are essential for a comfortable living environment. Many people carry assumptions about how these tasks should be divided, believing their partners will share the same expectations. However, that’s not always the case. The team at The Kitchen was taken aback to discover their differing views on dishwashing, regardless of whether they had a dishwasher. One person thought that the cook should avoid post-meal cleanup entirely, while another viewed it as a dual effort for couples. Yet another handled both cooking and cleaning, seeing them as part of a single process.
I’ve traditionally adhered to the belief that the cook shouldn’t have to clean, though I do allow for exceptions based on energy levels, kid-related demands, or other situational factors. However, when my partner, who takes charge of cooking, makes a dish I won’t eat—like his favorite pea soup or beef stew—then the cleanup falls solely to him, similar to my role when I bake.
Within the dishwashing rules, there’s an additional guideline I like to call the “sink rule.” For me, the sink is merely a temporary holding area, and any dish should be cleaned and removed after it’s done soaking. My partner, on the other hand, seems blissfully unaware of this rule, perhaps imagining that some mythical dish elf will handle the cleanup. (Let’s give a nod to the dish elf!)
When we lived in an apartment, we had a clear garbage disposal rule: the person who tied off the bag and replaced it didn’t have to take it out. Now that we have a house, my partner has assumed that rule still applies, but I only discovered this when I expressed frustration about our overflowing garbage. He thought it was my turn to change the bag since he was taking it out. Who knew? (He did!)
Laundry was another area where assumptions led to confusion. I began doing my own laundry at around age 12 and continued this practice when I shared living spaces with roommates. I assumed the same expectation would apply when my partner and I moved in together, but I soon realized I needed to communicate this to him. While I value having my own clothes returned to me, he had no idea that this separation was my ‘golden rule.’ Last week, he accidentally mixed our laundry and was taken aback by my insistence on finding my missing items; I can be a bit particular about my wardrobe, especially since I only have a handful of shirts I really like.
The takeaway here is simple: household rules are not universal, so it’s crucial to communicate them. If you find yourself grumbling every time you tackle a chore, your partner might be operating under a different set of guidelines. And, of course, your rules are the right ones—so be prepared to defend your position!
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In summary, navigating household chores can be tricky, especially when partners have different expectations. Communication is key to ensuring that everyone is on the same page, preventing misunderstandings and frustrations.