Before I had kids, I fancied myself a parenting guru, fully equipped with all the answers. But once my little ones arrived, I quickly realized I was woefully unprepared. From diaper changes to handling tantrums, I found myself searching for advice online rather than relying on my previous experiences with younger siblings and babysitting. Here’s a look at some of the parenting practices I once judged, only to find myself embracing them wholeheartedly.
1. Screen Time
Before Kids (BK): I was adamant that my child wouldn’t see screens until they were two. Enriching activities, reading, and outdoor adventures were going to be the foundation of my baby’s development. No brain mush here!
After Kids (AK): “Want to watch Netflix or some cartoons, sweetie?” I found myself turning on shows just to have a moment of peace. When my baby started leaning back to catch glimpses of the screen, it was clear I was fighting a losing battle. Sometimes, Sesame Street is my best friend while I sneak in a bathroom break.
2. Fast Food
BK: Fast food was a hard pass! I envisioned only organic, homemade meals shaped into fun characters.
AK: Enter Chick-fil-A. I never said no to delicious waffle fries! If it makes my life easier while keeping my child somewhat happy, I’m all in.
3. Spanking
BK: Spanking? Absolutely not. Not my style.
AK: While I still don’t spank, I can’t deny the thoughts I’ve had during particularly trying moments, like when my toddler decided that the kitchen table was a canvas.
4. Tantrums in Public
BK: I was the expert on how to handle tantrums from afar. “Just discipline your kid!” I’d say.
AK: Now, I realize that sometimes the best plan is to navigate the store like a stealthy ninja, hoping my child doesn’t spot me while I pick up snacks. Funyuns, anyone?
5. Formula Feeding
BK: I scoffed at the idea of using formula. Breastfeeding was the only option in my mind.
AK: Reality check: breastfeeding is hard! Sometimes I find myself wishing for a bottle just to get a moment of peace while my baby screams for food.
6. Momiform
BK: I vowed to remain stylish post-baby.
AK: But let’s be real—when it’s been days since I had a shower, I no longer care if my shirt is stained.
7. Not Tonight, Honey
BK: I believed that sexy nursing bras would keep the spark alive.
AK: Now I’m just trying to keep my top on while managing a nursing pillow.
8. Food as a Reward
BK: I was convinced that rewarding with food was a slippery slope.
AK: But when my child goes five minutes without an accident, I might just offer them a slice of cake.
9. Co-Sleeping
BK: “No kids in our bed!” I declared.
AK: But after sleepless nights in a rocking chair, I’d gladly give up my bed for a sliver of sleep, even if it means sharing with a little one.
Looking back, I’d love to tell my pre-parent self to ease up on the judgment. No one can truly understand the challenges of parenting until they’re in the thick of it. For those starting their journey, remember that every parent has their own path, and it’s okay to change your mind.
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Summary: Parenting often leads us to break our own rules and expectations. From screen time to food rewards, many of the practices I swore I wouldn’t adopt became essential parts of my daily life.