It finally happened! I encountered that elusive figure known as the Chill Mom at the nearby park, and we exchanged numbers. I had heard tales of this rare occurrence but never thought it would actually happen to me. Making connections with other moms I’d want to hang out with feels strikingly similar to dating, and just the thought of it sends my nerves into overdrive.
So, there we were, chatting about the hilarious antics of our little ones, how exhausted we are, and how lovely the weather is. Suddenly, she pulls out her phone and says, “We should definitely stay in touch.” We swapped numbers, said our goodbyes, and went our separate ways.
Later that night, after the kids were tucked in, I grabbed my phone and opened the texting app. I began typing away, but as soon as I was about to hit send, anxiety kicked in. Within moments, my mind raced through a whirlwind of thoughts:
- What on earth should I say?
- Will she even remember me?
- Oh no, if I text her too soon, she’ll think I’m desperate!
- But if I wait too long, she might think I’m flaky.
- Should I follow the 3-Day Rule?
Ugh, this is ridiculous, just send her a message. She seemed awesome! We could totally become best friends.
I envisioned standing weekly girls’ nights, our kids having sleepovers, and maybe even hosting a family BBQ! But then, I thought, she is fit and stylish—what if she’s vegan or on some extreme diet? But if she is, it’s working wonders because she rocked those yoga pants like a pro. Ugh, maybe I need to hit the gym.
Okay, time to text her! Should I suggest a meetup at the park next weekend? Will she think it’s odd to meet in public? I can’t invite her over; I’d have to do some serious cleaning first. Her place is probably immaculate. Or maybe not? She seemed pretty chill. Surely, she has laundry piled up somewhere too.
Alright, I’m going to message her! Tonight! But wait, what can I say that’s witty, friendly, and casual without making her think, “Who is this?” This is tougher than I imagined.
After two days of deliberation, I finally sent a text to Chill Mom.
“Hi there! We had a great time meeting you at the park! We’ll be there with a picnic lunch around noon Saturday if you’d like to join us!”
Boom. Message sent. Now, the waiting game begins. This feels just like dating.
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Summary
Making mom friends is a lot like dating—filled with excitement, nerves, and the fear of being judged. Meeting Chill Mom at the park and texting her for a potential hangout is just the beginning of a new friendship journey!