Why I Disregarded These 8 Parenting Guidelines—and Why You Might Want To As Well

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As a first-time mom at 34, I had a plethora of ideas about the dos and don’ts of parenting. Little did I realize that the parenting landscape would challenge those notions at every turn. For every rule I set, there seemed to be just as compelling a reason to toss it aside.

1. No Co-Sleeping
   Initially, I envisioned my baby peacefully snoozing in a bassinet all night long. That dream quickly crumbled when my little one turned into a night owl, waking every hour. Co-sleeping became essential for survival; after enduring months of sleepless nights, I would have slept standing up if it meant catching a few z’s. Now, even at six years old, our family still enjoys Friday night slumber parties.
2. No Formula
   My parents raised me on the belief that formula was the enemy. However, my son, who was breastfed until he was two, occasionally had a bottle of formula when I needed a break from the emotional whirlwind of motherhood. My partner reminded me that my struggle was unnecessary, and it led to all of us enjoying better sleep.
3. No Sugar
   Growing up, my dad was staunchly against sugar, yet I became a secret sugar addict, resulting in a childhood filled with cavities. I’ve learned the value of moderation. My son enjoys the occasional gummy bear but doesn’t have a stash of sweets hidden away.
4. Only Organic Foods
   While organic eating is ideal, financial realities sometimes dictate otherwise. Since my son’s arrival, our income has fluctuated, and convenience has occasionally triumphed over nutritional perfection. My parents thrived on foods like canned Spam and Jell-O, and they turned out just fine.
5. No Screen Time
   As someone who isn’t a big TV fan, I initially adhered to the “no television before age two” guideline. But as a work-from-home mom with an only child, I found that screen time became a necessity for both relaxation and educational purposes. Now that my son is in first grade, I’m comfortable allowing some downtime in front of a screen.
6. No Separate Meals
   We all have different tastes, and my son’s palate leans more toward his dad’s preferences. Given my celiac disease diagnosis, I have to eat gluten-free while my husband and son enjoy their baked goods. I’ve learned to prepare a shared main dish while offering sides that cater to their tastes.
7. No Time-Outs
   I grew up with little discipline and viewed time-outs as harsh. However, I soon discovered that they often helped me regain my composure. Sometimes, I was the one who needed a breather!
8. No Bribery
   After a chaotic shopping trip with a tantrum-prone toddler, I realized that a small treat could be a worthwhile investment for a smoother experience. If chocolate or a favorite show can prevent a meltdown, it’s a strategy I’m willing to employ.

The one rule I steadfastly cling to is the importance of affection. It’s vital for my son to know that boys can receive and give love freely, whether it’s tickling his toes at bedtime or showering him with extra hugs and kisses, no matter how late it is.

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Summary

Parenting is full of unexpected challenges that often lead to breaking the rules we once held dear. From co-sleeping to the occasional use of formula, it’s essential to adapt and find what works best for your family. Embracing flexibility can lead to a more harmonious household and a happier child.