I don’t mind if your living room looks like a tornado hit it. I’ll gladly shove aside the laundry on the couch and help you fold it while we chuckle about how tedious putting clothes away can be. Your overly enthusiastic, slobbering dog? Bring it on! I’ll accept his affection and join in on the fun of tossing his favorite ball. And if your fridge is empty? No worries—I already had a bite to eat. I actually enjoy your instant coffee and microwave popcorn.
It doesn’t matter to me if you step outside in an outfit that’s not on trend, or if your purse came from a discount store, or if your wardrobe is entirely thrifted. On the flip side, if you’re a high-end shopper, that’s totally cool, too! We’ll get through those days when you’re rocking visible roots, a quirky mole, a regrettable tattoo, or even if you’ve put on a few extra pounds.
I’m not concerned about your diet choices, whether they are organic or not. I won’t judge your parenting style—whether you co-sleep, use strollers, or let your kids indulge in a bit of screen time. If you find yourself so exhausted that chicken nuggets are dinner and a Tinkerbell movie is your go-to, that’s perfectly fine. I’ve been there too; a little bit of processed food won’t ruin anything.
If your child throws a tantrum while we’re out, I won’t bat an eye. Everyone has off days, and I’m more than happy to hold your baby while you manage the situation with your toddler.
I don’t care if you’re feeling stuck in a job or still searching for your passion. Whether you practice yoga daily or only attend church to appease your grandmother, that’s your choice. One day, you will complete that book or launch that business, and I’ll be cheering you on, even if we’re both old and gray by then.
You can confide in me about your relationship struggles or family pressures. If you dream of escaping to a hotel room for three days of solitude and room service, I get it—I have those fantasies too.
I don’t expect you to host lavish dinner parties or be a gourmet chef. Let’s grab takeout from that amazing little Thai place down the street that I know you’ll love.
Making mistakes doesn’t make you a failure; I admire your courage to go back to school and pursue what you truly love, even if it means graduating a bit later in life. Age is just a number.
In the end, none of these things matter much to me. What I truly value in our friendship is simple:
Are you kind? That’s what counts.
I care that you have good intentions, even when things don’t go as planned. I value your compassion towards children, waitstaff, and animals, regardless of their appearance. I need to know you don’t hurt others with your words or actions. When you slip up, I appreciate your ability to recognize it and offer a sincere apology because we all make mistakes.
Your beliefs and opinions don’t sway me, but I do care that your actions come from a place of love. It’s important to me that you embrace diversity and show empathy to others.
Amidst the chaos of our lives, I cherish the meaningful moments we share, where even tears can bring us closer. When we part ways, I want us to feel uplifted, knowing that our friendship makes our lives a little brighter.
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In summary, true friendship is about kindness, empathy, and the connection we share, regardless of the chaos around us.