Why Turning 40 Has Been My Best Year Yet

I used to be a total fashion snob in my teenage years. If it didn’t come from a brand like The Gap, I wanted nothing to do with it. I rocked mall hair, Keds, tight-rolled jeans, and Hypercolor shirts—everything revolved around image. Fast forward to today, and the idea of paying over $20 for jeans makes me cringe.

Recently, we found ourselves in need of a new vehicle. I was adamant about avoiding a minivan, holding onto my midsize SUV for dear life. But after a test drive, I couldn’t believe how spacious and practical they are. The dashboard features were a revelation, and I suddenly felt like I had a license to drive a bit slower—safety first! While it might not be the coolest vehicle on the block, my family of four is cozy and content.

2. Understanding My Value as a Mom

For years, I felt undervalued, but now that my kids are growing up, I see the traits they’ve inherited from me. The hard work is paying off! Sure, there are some not-so-great behaviors too, but I choose to focus on the positives.

3. Embracing the Water with My Kids

I’ve become much less serious about myself. In the past, I avoided swimming with my kids, feeling self-conscious about my body. Now, I dive in headfirst, joining them in splash pads, laughing and playing. I may not don a bikini, and I’d prefer a private pool, but I refuse to let my insecurities hold me back. My kids want to enjoy these moments with me, and I’m all in!

4. Letting Go of Fear and Judgment

For too long, I cared too much about what others thought, but life is too short for that. As I’ve matured, I’ve relaxed and learned to embrace who I am. I don’t engage in petty arguments; everyone has their own beliefs, and that’s okay. Staying true to myself feels liberating.

5. Giving Myself Permission to Dream

I used to think that settling down meant resigning myself to a job I didn’t love, just like Dan and Lisa from that sitcom. After leaving a job I enjoyed to stay home with the kids, I questioned what was next. I remembered my passion for creative writing—could I still pursue that?

6. Rediscovering My Talents

The answer was yes! I started a blog, and it has reignited my love for writing. Initially, I was terrified of both failure and success, but I committed to writing regardless of an audience. It felt like a breath of fresh air.

7. Taking a Leap of Faith

I began to wonder if I could turn my passion into a career. Lacking confidence but driven by curiosity, I researched freelance writing and pitched my ideas to potential clients. Despite my fears, it began to take off! People resonate with my words, and I’ve found success. I’ll continue writing, whether it pays off or not. Take that, Dan and Lisa!

8. Shifting from Competition to Support

Competition is pointless. We’re all at different stages in our journeys, and each of us has valuable experiences to share. At 40, you possess wisdom that can help others. Embrace it! The truly great people lift others up instead of tearing them down.

9. Uncovering the Essence of Life

Perhaps my most profound realization is that life is not about me. I started focusing on others rather than my own issues. Volunteering at a local shelter has provided me with incredible perspective; helping others diminishes my own problems. Choosing to uplift others is genuinely fulfilling.

10. Opening My Heart Again

For years, I protected my heart, isolating myself out of fear of being hurt. This led to a lonely existence. But I’ve learned that there is far more goodness in the world than bad, and I’m pushing myself to reconnect with others.

Now that I’m 40, the labels, awkward hairstyles, and pretentious attitudes have faded away. What remains is just me, and honestly, I’m having the best year of my life. If you see a charming gold minivan navigating the streets (probably lost), don’t hesitate to say hello!

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Summary

: Turning 40 has been a transformative experience for me. I’ve embraced my value as a mother, found joy in simple moments with my kids, and rediscovered my passion for writing. I’ve let go of fears, stopped comparing myself to others, and focused on uplifting those around me. This year has brought clarity and happiness, and I’m excited about what lies ahead.