In our cozy living room hangs a large wedding photograph, carefully positioned above the love seat where my husband, Jake, often dozes off around 9 p.m. Most evenings, one or both of us find ourselves gazing at that youthful couple captured in time. Oh, how 15 years can transform your perspective! It’s hard to believe we looked like teenagers back then. I vividly remember choosing our wedding date just days before my 26th birthday, thinking, “Wow, 26 is practically ancient to get married!”
Now, I can share some insights about marriage. Our lives are busier than ever, filled with a constant juggling act between alone time, moments together, time with each child, and family outings. Work and car rides consume much of our days. Yet, there’s a remarkable beauty in this chaos—something I couldn’t have understood back in that smoky bar. He’s my partner, my ally, and together we hold each other accountable and sometimes just hold each other up. It’s really us against the world—or at least, us against the kids!
In that wedding photo, I naively thought I had it all figured out. I had landed my dreamy blue-eyed husband, and I assumed the hard part was behind us. Little did I know how mistaken I was! Getting married is the easy part; it’s the journey of staying married that truly tests you. I should probably let my parents know that I finally get what they were trying to teach me. But along with wisdom comes baggage—15 years worth of experiences that only he understands.
We hit rock bottom at times when I believed we couldn’t continue another day. I even envisioned packing up the minivan with the kids and driving away. But I chose to stay and see what tomorrow would bring. Conversely, there were moments when we felt we had mastered the art of marriage! Arguments? Not us! We thrived on communication, discovery, and understanding.
Amidst the highs and lows, we faced challenges that shaped us as a couple: chronic illnesses, infertility (another story for another day), financial ups and downs, and the joys of raising children and pets. As we approach our 16th year, I look back at that picture and wish I could tell my younger self that the wedding was merely the beginning of an extraordinary journey that only we could navigate.
There’s something incredibly comforting about having someone who knows you inside and out, someone who’s got your back. Whether we’re making parenting decisions, planning our weekends, or knowing when it’s time to wrap up a party (I might have to kick our friends out by 10 p.m. on New Year’s because that’s when Jake is “done” socializing), we truly have each other’s interests at heart. We get one another, and we genuinely enjoy each other’s company—a wonderful bonus!
Sometimes, I find it amusing that people marry young. By “young,” I mean in their 20s. I sometimes wonder if they do it because they fear that if they wait too long, they might never take the plunge. No amount of education, travel, or reading could have prepared me for the rollercoaster ride of the past 15 years. It might sound dramatic, but it’s been an exhilarating journey, and I’m eager to see what the next 15 years will hold!
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In summary, the journey of marriage is filled with ups and downs, but through it all, the partnership and understanding that develop over the years are what truly matter. Here’s to the next chapter with the one who knows me best!