Can you believe my little one is already 10 weeks old? As I reminisce about those early days, I’m struck by how both daunting and precious they were. The outpouring of support from friends, family, and neighbors truly amazed us. Their creativity and practical help made a world of difference. Since these memories are still fresh, I want to share some great ideas for how you can lend a hand to your favorite new mom:
- Organize a Meal Train. My wonderful friend, Sarah, set up a meal train for us after both births. It was such a kind gesture and a total lifesaver! Websites like FoodTidings.com and Mealtrain.com make it easy to coordinate meal schedules. We were blessed with meals for three weeks straight.
- Provide a Meal. Even if there’s no meal train, delivering a hearty meal for the whole family is incredibly helpful. From takeout to homemade dishes, every bit counts. And if dinner doesn’t fit your schedule, consider breakfast or lunch; families need to eat around the clock!
- Offer to Run Errands. On the day I went into labor, I had long shopping lists for Target and Costco ready. Luckily, when I returned home from the hospital, two friends asked if they could grab anything from those stores. I didn’t hesitate to give them my list because they are my close pals.
- Surprise Them with Grocery Delivery. In those overwhelming early weeks, it can feel impossible to think about essentials. Unexpected grocery deliveries are a delightful surprise! Consider items like bottled water (great for nursing), snacks for older kids, fresh produce, and quick meals.
- Take the Older Kids for a Playdate. What a blessing this was! A friend of mine picked up our toddler for a few hours so I could have quiet time with the baby. The house felt so peaceful without the usual chaos!
- Invite the Family Out for Dinner. It might sound unconventional, but offering to take the new parents and their baby out for dinner can be a welcome change. After being cooped up for days, I loved the chance to connect with adults outside the house.
- Help with House Cleaning. My mom was a frequent visitor during those first weeks, and she couldn’t stand the mess. While she held the baby, she tackled cleaning tasks around the house. If you’re not inclined to clean yourself, consider hiring a service as a thoughtful gift.
- Hold the Baby While Mom Catches a Break. Simply saying, “I’m here to watch the baby so you can shower or nap,” can be a huge relief. Even 30 minutes of downtime is a luxury for a new mom.
- Take Their Car for a Wash. It might be a while before your friend has the chance to clean their car again. Offer to take it to the car wash and return it sparkling clean.
- Bring Gifts for the Older Siblings. Gifts are always appreciated. Items like diapers, clothes, or toys are practical, and bringing something special for the older siblings is a great way to help them feel included during this transition.
- Be Mindful of Your Visit Duration. Thankfully, my friends recognized when it was time to leave. In those chaotic early days, it’s best not to overstay your welcome. Pop in, drop off some love (and maybe goodies), then head out.
- Check About Bringing Your Kids. Every new mom has different preferences about visitors. Communicate with your friend about bringing your children along. If you do, make sure they don’t overwhelm the newborn or add to the chaos.
- Practice Good Hygiene. Before holding the baby, take a moment to wash your hands or use hand sanitizer. It’s a simple act that will be appreciated and saves the new mom from feeling awkward about it.
- Offer Words of Encouragement. Sincere words can lift a new mom’s spirits. Tell her she’s doing great, she looks beautiful, and remind her that tough moments will pass. You might be the only adult she interacts with that day, so make it a positive experience.
- Avoid Asking, “What Can I Do?”. Most new moms will likely say they’re fine, even if they need help. Instead, offer specific suggestions based on the list above, as many women won’t ask for help directly.
I hope these ideas inspire you to support your friend during this special yet challenging time! Now, back to reality—my little ones are demanding food again, and my standards have officially vanished, but I wouldn’t trade this for anything.
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