Today, while rummaging through my daughter’s backpack, I stumbled upon a clutter of papers. Among the usual flyers for local activities, a PTO sign-up sheet, and various homework assignments, one particular document caught my attention: a physical education assignment related to Picture Day.
It stated: “Girls who wear a skirt or dress will earn 25 points… girls and boys in nice pants and a collared shirt will earn 15 points.”
I had to read it twice to grasp the absurdity of what I was seeing. My initial reaction was one of absolute shock. How could this be happening in 2023? I felt compelled to take action, but then I hesitated, thinking about what that might entail. I’m not naturally confrontational; I often opt for harmony over discord. In the past, I’ve brushed aside issues for the sake of maintaining a pleasant image, especially regarding my child’s school.
In this instance, my daughter loves wearing dresses, so I considered just keeping my feelings to myself. But then, my studies in social work reminded me of the importance of advocating against injustice. I realized it was essential to speak up, even if it meant risking being unpopular. Thus, I decided to reach out to the principal of my daughter’s school.
Here’s what I wanted to say: “Are you serious? My child has to wear a dress for extra points? It’s 2023!” But instead, I wrote a more measured message expressing my concerns about the assignment.
I explained that while I understood the value of dressing well, the idea that girls should earn more points for wearing a dress is outdated and harmful. It promotes the notion that a girl’s worth is tied to her appearance, which is completely unacceptable. I found it alarming that an educator would reward conformity over individuality. Not every girl feels comfortable in a dress, and many successful women have never worn one.
Despite my daughter loving dresses, I felt it was crucial to model standing up for what’s right, even if it didn’t directly impact her. As a social worker and educator, I believe in fostering acceptance and understanding among children, and I was disappointed that her school wasn’t upholding those values.
The next part was nerve-wracking. I waited anxiously for a response, which came just 36 minutes later. The principal thanked me for sharing my concerns and assured me that he would discuss the assignment with the gym teacher. While I felt relieved, I also had lingering anxiety about the situation.
Later that day, I visited the school to pick up my daughter, and I unexpectedly ran into the gym instructor who created the assignment. My heart raced; I felt like a teenager again, worried about facing her. However, she approached me and expressed her desire to talk. In our conversation, she acknowledged that they would revise the assignment to better align with current perspectives. However, she reprimanded me for not addressing her directly first, which made me feel a bit guilty.
I reiterated that my goal wasn’t to cause trouble but to ensure fairness for all students. I walked away feeling both proud of standing my ground and a bit disheartened by her reaction.
I didn’t stop there; I followed up with the principal to thank him for his attention to the matter and to clarify that the goal was equitable treatment for all children based on their clothing choices.
The key takeaway? It’s essential to advocate for what you believe in, even if it means facing discomfort or disapproval. Standing up for fairness and acceptance is more important than being liked by everyone.
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In summary, advocating for fairness in education, especially regarding outdated gender norms, is crucial. It may not always be comfortable, but it’s essential for fostering a more accepting environment for our children.