By: Emily Thompson
Date: Oct. 5, 2023
I must admit, I’m a bit of a scaredy-cat. My list of fears is long and varied, including everything from creepy crawlies and flying creatures to social interactions and speaking up in groups larger than four. Don’t even get me started on the topic of clowns or darkness! And making phone calls? Forget it!
As someone who tends to be introverted and often anxious, I spent the first three decades of my life comfortably nestled in my bubble. I had perfected the art of avoiding my fears… until motherhood came knocking.
That pivotal moment was the day I became a parent. The temperature that day was a frosty -40 degrees, but it was my heart that truly froze in fear. However, parenting doesn’t allow for cowardice. My children have nudged me out of my cozy little bubble, encouraging me to find my brave side. Here’s how they do it every day:
1. Goodbye, Comfort Zone!
Becoming a mother quickly taught me that comfort zones are a luxury I can no longer afford. Sure, I can indulge in comfort food, but as for comfort zones? They vanished the moment I entered the labor and delivery room. Parenting means donning bunny ears in public and breaking into dance at the grocery store. It’s about singing silly songs at storytime and making goofy faces at the playground. Embracing my inner child has proven to be far more exhilarating than clinging to comfort.
2. My Concerns Are Out the Window!
Before kids, I was overly concerned about what others thought of me—friends, family, and even strangers had the power to affect my mood. But once I became a parent, I found myself leaving the house in yesterday’s yogurt-stained leggings without a second thought. To navigate parenthood successfully, I realized I needed to stop worrying about others’ opinions. As long as my kids are clothed, fed, and happy, my worries about judgment have taken a back seat.
3. Kids = Free Therapy
There’s no better way to confront your fears than to face them repeatedly, and parenthood provides that opportunity daily. Afraid of making calls? Too bad—you have to schedule a dozen appointments for your children in the next month. Not a fan of new places? Surprise! All your kid’s appointments are at unfamiliar locations. Terrified of snakes, birds, and spiders? Tough break—your child just caught one and wants to show it to you. Parenting offers free exposure therapy sessions, which I never knew I needed!
4. Finding My Voice
As an introvert and a people-pleaser, being assertive has always been a challenge for me. However, motherhood has pushed me to find my voice and assert myself in ways I never thought possible. It’s particularly essential when setting boundaries with my strong-willed son and advocating for my children when they can’t advocate for themselves. This small act of bravery—standing up for myself and modeling that courage—is a gift that I hope will last a lifetime.
5. Pursuing Dreams Together
I have so many aspirations for my children—dreams I was too timid to pursue myself. Now, as a mom, I understand that the best way to inspire my children to chase their dreams is to actively pursue my own. This means putting on my “big-girl pants,” allowing myself to be vulnerable, and taking creative and professional risks. Whether it’s asking for a promotion, returning to school, or running a marathon, knowing my kids are watching as I reach for the stars fuels my motivation like nothing else.
While these five acts of bravery may seem minor compared to the heroic feats others perform daily, they are significant to me. I’ve come to realize that bravery exists in countless forms. For this former scaredy-cat, these small yet mighty acts inspired by my fearless children could very well earn me a superhero cape—or at least a permanent spot outside my comfort zone.
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In summary, motherhood has transformed me in ways I never imagined possible. Through the challenges and joys, I’ve discovered bravery, assertiveness, and the drive to pursue dreams—not just for myself, but for my children as well.