As an only child of divorced parents, there have been moments when I’ve felt adrift in life. However, expanding my view to include my aunts has been my saving grace. From Nebraska to Texas, these remarkable women have been the quiet architects of my identity, providing support and influence that I often take for granted.
At any time of day, I find solace in knowing one of my aunts could be found doing something delightful: cheering for the Huskers, inviting me to join her for a game of Criminal Case on Facebook, taking Grandma grocery shopping, enjoying margaritas with friends, or even doing yoga stretches on her living room floor. Although none live nearby, their presence is a cornerstone of my sense of security and happiness. I often wish they were close like a Midwestern tribe, united in strength and love.
My aunts are embedded in countless cherished memories. I recall being five years old, feeling all grown-up as I danced with an aunt to Bob Seger’s tunes at a Nebraska wedding. At twelve, I sat over Swedish pancakes with another aunt who eagerly tried to pinpoint the moment her body changed, hoping to ease my own insecurities (which, truth be told, never really went away). I picture them engaged in Jane Fonda workout videos, preparing festive meals, and managing the chaos of our family gatherings.
As I’ve matured, I’ve drawn inspiration from my aunts’ resilience in facing life’s challenges. During my first year of teaching, when my classroom felt beyond my control, one aunt shared her own struggles, recounting moments of tears and anxiety before heading to work. Another aunt opened up about her battle with postpartum depression while I wrestled with my own feelings after the birth of my son. Their journeys remind me that I can overcome my own obstacles.
My aunts offer unwavering encouragement: they delight in my children’s photos, promote my work, and have loved me from afar through some tough times. Now, I find myself in the role of an aunt, eager to honor that legacy. I dream of taking my niece to Disney on Ice and playing “people” with her. I want to paint her nails, shop together, and later, discuss her boyfriends or help her pick out those pricey jeans. I want to cheer her on in all her pursuits and stand by as she navigates life, even when she might act out.
With my nephew, I envision building Duplos, laughing at his antics, and supporting him in sports or art shows. I look forward to those teenage outings, sharing plates of food while hoping to catch glimpses into his secretive world. I want them to feel my presence, even from a distance, just as my aunts have been there for me, quietly and consistently.
Although the role of an aunt often flies under the radar, aunts play an invaluable part in nurturing relationships, offering a fresh perspective that complements the nurturing of mothers. They embody the cool aunt who offers a reprieve from strict parenting, providing comfort and understanding.
So whether your aunts are nearby or across the country, let’s take a moment to celebrate these incredible women who infuse our lives with additional love and balance.
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Summary:
This piece expresses gratitude for aunts, highlighting their essential role in providing support, perspective, and love. The author reflects on personal experiences while embracing the responsibilities and joys of being an aunt, underscoring the unique bond shared with these important figures.