Parenting
By Emily Carter
Updated: July 27, 2016
Originally Published: November 23, 2015
Most of the time, my 10-year-old daughter is an absolute joy. She’s sweet, hilarious, and full of affection. Daily, she cuddles up to me, nestling her head against my shoulder. She crafts cards that read, “Best Mom Ever,” adorned with hearts and stickers, featuring us holding hands. She’s not yet embarrassed by her “old mom” and still welcomes hugs and kisses, even in front of friends. We embark on outdoor adventures, hiking and biking, genuinely enjoying each other’s company. When I head out for a bit, she clings to me, saying, “Please don’t go, Mommy!” I know that soon enough, adolescence will prompt her to pull away, but for now, our bond feels strong.
However, recently, things have taken a different turn.
When I attempt to make a lighthearted joke, she rolls her eyes, as if I’m the dullest person on Earth. No matter what I say—whether I remark that the sky is blue or comment on dinner—she meets me with an exasperated sigh, insisting, “Actually, it’s aquamarine with a hint of periwinkle.” The meals I prepare, which she once adored, have become merely “meh, I’ve had better.” If I’m late to drop her off at school or drop an occasional curse, she’s ready to critique my every move. Asking her to help around the house feels like asking her to complete an impossible quest, as if making her bed is akin to battling a dragon.
I understand that some of this behavior is likely hormonal; her young body is already grappling with the shifts of growing up. But why does it seem like I’m the only target for her outbursts? It’s puzzling, especially since she treats others—her father, grandparents, teachers, and friends—with so much more respect. I’m the one who bears the brunt of her frustrations, facing her eye rolls, sighs, and complaints, all seemingly aimed directly at me.
A friend of mine offered some perspective on this situation, saying, “Take it as a compliment. She feels safe with you. You’re her emotional dumping ground.” At first, I thought, “Why me?” After all, I’m the one who enforces homework, schedules doctor visits, and even insists on the dreaded chore of household cleaning.
But upon reflecting more, I began to see the wisdom in her words. My daughter knows I will always be there for her, regardless of how hurtful she might be at times. This isn’t her testing my limits; it’s her showing me that she trusts me enough to express her feelings. I am her anchor, the one who supports her when she stumbles, dances with her in moments of sadness, and helps guide her toward responsibility. I am indeed her “Beloved Garbage Heap,” and I can handle it all—the discarded worries, the heavy burdens, and the frustrations of everyday life—because our bond is built on love.
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In summary, despite my daughter’s recent barbs and eye rolls, I understand that it stems from her feeling secure enough to express her emotions with me. I embrace the role of being her emotional confidant, knowing that our relationship is rooted in love and trust.