Once upon a time, I was a carefree young woman, full of free time, thick hair, and a smooth complexion. Life seemed uncomplicated, and I felt fortunate to have minimal worries. However, I still found a way to stress about the little things.
Now that I’ve matured (and hopefully gained a bit of wisdom), I’ve navigated the challenges of raising three children, enduring sleepless nights, and managing fluctuating emotions. The weight of caring for another human has taught me that sometimes, like Elsa, you just have to let things go. I’ve come to understand that life has a way of working itself out if you allow it. While I may raise my voice a bit more, I’ve learned to prioritize and not to dwell on trivial matters.
If only I could share these insights with my younger self, I would reassure her that relaxation is essential, mistakes are part of the journey, and that true love makes you more authentic. Here are a few key pieces of advice I would offer:
1. Embrace Relaxation
It’s perfectly fine to strive for excellence, but it’s equally important to accept failure when it happens. You might forget your child’s special day at school, causing tears and guilt, but you’ll be forgiven quickly. One day you’ll excel at making lunches, while another day you’ll surprise yourself with fresh sheets on every bed. Life has its ups and downs, and they will balance out, so remember to forgive yourself.
2. Your Marriage Will Flourish
Contrary to popular belief, marriage doesn’t become monotonous; it evolves into something richer. Yes, you’ll both feel exhausted and irritable, and your minivan will symbolize your busy lives. You may argue about parenting styles or wonder how he can chew so loudly. Yet, he will also amaze you with unexpected kindness, like cooking dinner or reading bedtime stories. Laughter will remain a cornerstone of your relationship, even during those chaotic, sleep-deprived days. Cherish these moments with a good partner.
3. Accept Your Changing Body
Get ready for some changes. Your body will transform, and you’ll catch yourself thinking, “What happened?!” when looking in the mirror. There’s no point in comparing your current self to your pre-baby figure. Your breasts will undergo a significant change, but remember, bras are your friends! And your partner will still find you attractive, so there’s hope.
4. Savor Every Moment, Even the Tough Ones
The challenges will pass, just like the joyful times. It’s tough to enjoy the hard moments, but when you look back, you’ll want to recall the laughter and fun. Be playful with your kids, build sheet forts, let them indulge in fries, and say yes more than no. Capture memories through photos, hold your partner’s hand, and express love to your family. Life is an adventure, so make the most of it.
Above all, recognize that life is a constant state of change. Don’t get bogged down trying to control everything. Embrace the unpredictability, because three amazing little people are on their way into your life, ready to love you deeply.
Enjoy this wild ride—it’s going to be challenging yet more incredible than you could ever imagine.
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Summary
Reflecting on my younger self brings a wealth of lessons about the importance of relaxation, the growth of marriage, body acceptance, and savoring life’s fleeting moments. Embrace the chaos and enjoy the journey ahead.