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Dads, Co-Sleeping Can Actually Spice Up Your Love Life
It’s a common belief among fathers that co-sleeping is a relationship killer, a romance destroyer, or just a bad idea overall. “How can we keep the spark alive with a child nestled between us?” they lament, often concluding, “It’s impossible.”
Well, I’m here to challenge that notion and assert that co-sleeping can be a delightful experience. Those fathers who disagree may simply lack imagination and, let’s be honest, they might not be the best partners either.
First off, I’m not advocating for attachment parenting or any rigid parenting philosophy. The truth is, every child is unique, with their own personality and whims that defy our best-laid plans. Let’s be real: kids have a knack for throwing a wrench into our ideas. If a mother prefers not to co-sleep, that’s perfectly fine—after all, it’s usually the mother who deals with the midnight feedings and restless movements.
However, if a mother is on board with co-sleeping, then it’s time for the father to step up and embrace this new chapter. Sharing a bed with a baby is a wonderful blessing, as infants are undeniably adorable and bring joy simply by being there. My own little 2-year-old princess has been nestled between my wife and me since her very first moments, and there’s something absolutely precious about watching her sleep peacefully. Plus, when she’s dreaming, she isn’t demanding my attention or asking me to engage in her latest imaginative play.
Sleep deprivation is often a challenge for parents, but I’ve found that when the baby is focused on mom, I can often catch some extra z’s. My little one occasionally tries to snuggle up to my wife, and the only thing that disturbs my slumber is her pleas for some quiet.
The Greatest Advantage of Co-Sleeping
The greatest advantage of co-sleeping? It can actually enhance your romantic life. Let’s face it: the bed of a couple who has been together long enough to have a child can often feel less than romantic. It’s common for these beds to become cluttered with everyday life—snack crumbs, TV show reminders, and the scent of domesticity linger in the sheets. It’s hardly the ideal setting for intimacy.
Yet, with a baby co-sleeping, suddenly there’s a renewed urgency to keep the passion alive. The presence of a little one can spark creativity, forcing fathers to think outside the box when it comes to intimacy. Most homes are equipped with various potential romantic locales—showers, kitchens, or even a cozy car backseat.
Being inventive may require some effort, but isn’t a fulfilling love life worth that? A co-sleeping baby presents an opportunity to treat your partner as an exciting lover and keep the flame alive, rather than succumbing to the monotony that can creep into long-term relationships.
Of course, this only works if the mother appreciates the co-sleeping arrangement and finds it beneficial for her own needs, such as nursing and nighttime comfort. If your little one is happily snoozing in their crib, then perhaps return to the comforts of your own space—but maybe consider ditching those snacks in bed.
In the end, co-sleeping doesn’t have to be a relationship hindrance; it can foster deeper connections and encourage creative intimacy.
Further Reading
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Summary
Co-sleeping can enhance intimacy between partners instead of stifling it. This arrangement can encourage creativity in keeping the romance alive, provided both parents are on board. Embracing co-sleeping may lead to a more fulfilling love life, even amidst the challenges of parenting.