In the year following my separation, an intriguing term has frequently surfaced in conversations with friends and even during chats with potential partners regarding my role as a single mother. More often than not, people describe me as a “badass.”
Initially, I wasn’t quite sure how to respond to this label. When I think of a badass, I envision someone edgy, perhaps with a rebellious streak—dressed in black, adorned with tattoos, and possessing a fierce gaze. However, as a 34-year-old suburban mom of two, with a meticulous meal-planning calendar and a bedtime that rivals my kids’, “badass” seemed an unlikely descriptor.
Yet, when people repeatedly point out a quality in you that you might not see yourself, it’s worth considering. Over time, I’ve started to embrace the badass label. Could you relate? Here are 12 signs that might indicate you’re also a badass single mom:
- You Show Courage on Your Journey.
Being brave doesn’t mean you’re fearless every single day. As Anne Lamott wisely puts it, “courage is fear that has said its prayers.” You might still feel scared, but deep down, you know you can tackle whatever life throws your way. - You Get Things Done.
From taking out the trash to managing bills and everything in between, you handle countless responsibilities on your own. It’s no small feat, but you’re making it work. - You Define Your Own Worth.
Your self-value doesn’t hinge on others’ opinions. You focus on competing with yourself to grow stronger and better. The judgment of your ex or others doesn’t dictate your worth; only you can do that. - You Live Life on Your Terms.
What matters to you takes precedence, and you no longer feel the need to justify your choices to others. While you prioritize healthy meals for your family, matching outfits for your kids? Not a concern. - You Prioritize Self-Care.
Whether it’s taking a break to enjoy a bath or investing in your health with a gym membership, you understand that caring for yourself is essential. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. - You Manage Solo Parenting Like a Pro.
From laundry to doctor visits, you handle it all without another adult by your side. It may be challenging, but you’ve risen to the occasion. - You Stand Firm in Your Beliefs.
In negotiations with your ex or when setting rules in your home, you assert your boundaries. Your kids may test limits, but they understand your stance on important matters. - You Are Stronger Post-Divorce.
The lessons learned through hardship have fortified your resilience. You’ve reached a place of gratitude for the experiences that shaped your new life. - You Celebrate Your Achievements.
From mastering new skills to achieving work milestones, you take pride in your accomplishments. You don’t shy away from acknowledging your hard work. - You Keep It Real.
You don’t hide your feelings behind a mask. When asked how you’re doing, you’re honest about your struggles. Authenticity takes courage and is often overlooked in today’s curated social media world. - You Refuse to Play the Victim.
No matter how painful your past may be, you don’t see yourself as a victim. You recognize that heartbreak happens for a reason and choose to forge ahead, finding strength in your challenges. - You Demand Respect and Love.
After past relationships, you’ve learned to recognize when someone doesn’t appreciate you. You insist on being treated the way you deserve, paving the way for a brighter future.
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In summary, recognizing the signs of being a badass single mom can empower you to embrace your strength and individuality. You have the courage to face challenges, prioritize your well-being, and demand the respect you deserve. So, wear that badge of honor and celebrate your journey!