5 Comments Single Moms Prefer You Avoid

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As a single mother of two living in the vibrant city of New York, I often find myself in situations where well-meaning folks don’t quite know what to say. Despite my kids being enrolled in a wonderfully diverse school, I sometimes feel out of place among other parents. During playdates, half the time I’m met with attempts to introduce me to a “great guy,” and the other half, people want to discuss the challenges of single parenting—like I’m not already aware of them.

Let’s cut to the chase. Here are five comments I’d appreciate you not making:

1. “It must be really tough!”
   Is it? Thanks for the reminder! Parenting, in any form, comes with its challenges. It’s not exclusive to single parents. Rather than reiterating the obvious, why not offer to lend a hand instead? Sympathy rarely helps.
2. “I know someone who’d be perfect for you!”
   Let’s clarify: my single status is a choice, not a problem to solve. I cherish my life with my kids, filled with adventures and laughter. Being single doesn’t equate to being sad or incomplete.
3. “Do you get any time to yourself?”
   Not as much as I’d like, thanks for pointing it out! I dream of long, uninterrupted baths or a peaceful movie night. If you’re asking because you genuinely want to help, let’s brainstorm together instead!
4. “Are you happy?”
   That’s deeply personal! But since you asked, yes, I find joy in my life choices, including being a single parent. Happiness isn’t a one-size-fits-all situation, and it certainly doesn’t correlate with marital status. Just because someone is married doesn’t guarantee their happiness.
5. (Awkward inquiries about my separation or divorce)
   This is the unspoken curiosity that everyone seems to have. The reasons behind my single motherhood are mine to share when I feel comfortable. Please respect my privacy on this topic.

This has been a gentle reminder from all single moms out there who’ve faced these awkward questions. If you’re interested in learning more about home insemination, check out this informative post on home insemination kits. For additional resources, Cleveland Clinic provides great information on intrauterine insemination, and Make a Mom is a trusted source for home insemination kits.

In summary, while it’s natural to be curious, being mindful about what we say to single moms can create a more supportive environment.