As the mother of a 2-year-old and a 3-year-old, I found myself navigating one of the most challenging phases of parenting—one that seems particularly tough with such a small age gap. We all face our unique struggles as parents, but at times, it feels like our own challenges are the most daunting. I soon realized that my overwhelming situation was leading me to relinquish control. Instead of pushing through or searching for advice in parenting books or adopting a morning mantra, I allowed my kids to take the reins. This led to a permissive parenting style where I thought, “What’s the worst that could happen?”
Breakfast fruit snacks at 9 a.m.? Why not! Endless hours of screen time? That’s fine. Ignoring whether they would even try what I made for dinner? Sure thing. Before long, I had inadvertently lost my authority as a parent, awakening one day to find that I had raised little ones who didn’t quite grasp that they weren’t in charge. Through their persistent whining and crying, I let them dictate my choices, and I began to see myself as weak and ineffective—a realization that was both eye-opening and embarrassing.
It would have been simple to sweep my feelings of defeat under the rug. I could have dismissed it as “not that bad,” justifying my actions by blaming the fact that, living in the Pacific Northwest, I don’t drive and outings were challenging. I told myself I was just trying to be a fun parent within my limits, but deep down, I knew that wasn’t the truth. I wasn’t embracing the necessary challenges of discipline and boundaries, and that realization filled me with shame.
Months have passed since that enlightening moment, and the journey hasn’t been easy. I’ve been working to retrain both myself and my children. I had created a tangled web of misbehavior, rewards, and confusion between good and bad actions. Untangling this mess often meant simply saying “no,” even when there was no grand explanation other than to teach my children a vital lesson: you don’t always get what you want. Life doesn’t work that way, and neither does our household.
I’ve also learned that sometimes I crave my own peace and want to indulge my kids with another episode of their favorite show or extra snacks just to get a moment of quiet. But I’ve realized that prioritizing my needs over theirs isn’t the right approach. Most of the time, I have to buckle down and do what’s best for them, even if it makes me want to pull my hair out.
Parenting is all about striking that delicate balance—saying yes to certain things while saying no to others. There are days when my kids get a little spoiled—not from leniency, but simply because it feels good to treat them. On other days, it might seem like I’ve lost the ability to say anything other than “no.” We’re all learning together. I’m striving to raise children who understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them, and they’re learning to become respectful members of society. The chaos I created is still being sorted out, but I’m confident I’m heading in the right direction for all of us.
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Summary:
In my journey through parenting a 2 and 3-year-old, I learned the importance of balance by saying “no.” Initially, I allowed my children to dictate my choices, leading to chaos and confusion. However, through self-reflection and determination, I began to reestablish boundaries, teaching them the value of discipline. While the journey is ongoing, I am committed to fostering understanding and respect in our household.