It was meant to be a quick trip to the store for some refreshments. There I was, balancing a curious toddler, a fountain drink, a bottle of water, my phone, keys, and wallet. I flashed a smile at the cashier and encouraged my little one to say hello—usually, this helps to distract them long enough for me to get everything sorted for checkout. Typically, the cashier would coo at my child, who would respond with a shy “hi,” and we’d be on our way.
But this time was different.
The cashier’s gaze was fixed on me, more specifically, on the pentacle pendant that had slipped out from under my shirt. With a scowl, she yanked the water bottle away and dropped my fountain drink into a trash can at her feet. I could feel the stares from the customers behind me, their curiosity piercing like daggers, eager to understand what had caught the older woman’s attention.
“This is a Christian establishment. We don’t serve devil worshippers here.”
For a moment, I stood in stunned silence. Then the realization struck me—my pentacle had fallen out. It felt as if I had been doused in icy water, rendering me speechless. The words “That baby needs Jesus” echoed in my ears, but I remained silent. I turned and exited the store, keeping my head high while my mind raced and my heart thumped in my chest. My hands trembled as I tried to buckle my daughter into her car seat, and though tears threatened to spill, I held them back, not wanting to show weakness in front of those still watching from the store.
In that moment, I felt like a scared teenager again, reliving the painful memories of when I first embraced my identity. I recalled being told my self-portrait couldn’t be displayed at school, and how a once-beloved family member had viciously yanked my pentacle necklace off my neck, the same one that had been deemed inappropriate for school. I had been alone, frightened, and forced to learn how to advocate for myself when no one else would.
But I was no longer that scared teenager; I was a mother now. Although it wasn’t the first time I faced prejudice based on my beliefs, it was the first time it happened in front of my daughter.
When I discovered I was expecting, I began to worry about raising her in my pagan faith. Living in a rural part of the Bible Belt, it felt like an explosive mix—like shaking nitroglycerin. I questioned whether it was fair to expose my child to these challenges.
Yet, I came to understand that being different isn’t the issue; ignorance is. If people took the time to know me and my family, they would see we aren’t that far apart. We’re all striving to be the best versions of ourselves and to raise our children with love and care.
If I could speak to that cashier now, I would share the essence of my beliefs. Paganism is not about devil worship. I believe in harmony, nature, and a divine balance of both a god and goddess, working daily to embody that balance in my life. I truly believe everyone must choose their own path to the divine, and as long as no harm comes to the innocent, every path holds value. Pagans are not malevolent; we are just like anyone else you might know. In fact, chances are, you may know someone who identifies as pagan—they just haven’t felt safe to express it yet.
I would also remind her that while I don’t think my daughter needs Jesus, if she chooses to follow that path, I will wholeheartedly support her.
The real problem isn’t being different or living in a small town; it’s the fear that prevents us from rising above ignorance and learning about those who believe, worship, or express themselves differently. Our backgrounds and beliefs shape us, but they do not define the entirety of who we are. Every person is complex, and by judging someone based solely on one aspect of their identity, we miss out on the myriad of experiences and perspectives they bring.
I am indeed pagan, but I am also a wife, mother, sister, cousin, niece, friend, and a dedicated college student well beyond my high school years. I hail from a small Southern town filled with generations of farmers. I have an insatiable love for books, a penchant for crafting, a cat that I adore more than most people, and a genuine obsession with cookie dough. I suspect I share much more in common with you than you might realize.
That’s the beauty of humanity; when we take the time to connect, we often find common ground where we least expect it.
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Summary
In a heartfelt reflection, a pagan mother recounts a distressing encounter at a store that highlights the misconceptions surrounding her faith. She shares her journey of embracing her identity and the importance of understanding and acceptance in a world full of fear and ignorance. By advocating for her beliefs, she hopes to foster connections and understanding among diverse communities.