As I watch my daughter, Lucy, curled up in her PJs on a snowy March afternoon, completely absorbed in playing with her brother, I can’t help but wish she could remain in this innocent bubble forever. At just 10 years old, she is on the brink of a whirlwind—filled with drama, friendships, and the pressures of growing up. These challenges are inevitable, and I have so much to share with her when the time is right. Here’s what I want her to know:
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Speak Your Mind
When someone crosses a line, don’t hesitate to express yourself. Whether it’s through words, gestures, or simply walking away, make sure your feelings are known. Stand firm against disrespect, judgment, or any form of mistreatment. Your voice matters. -
Recognize True Worth
Just because someone may desire you doesn’t mean they value you. Understanding this distinction is crucial. If someone truly values you, you’ll feel it. Enjoy the thrill of new relationships, but don’t settle for less than you deserve. -
Treat Yourself
Indulge in life’s pleasures—buy those shoes, savor that coffee, or enjoy a glass of wine. There’s no need to save special moments for others; you deserve to enjoy them too. -
Embrace Your Body
Focus on being healthy and feeling good, rather than stressing over your appearance. Engage in activities that energize you, and don’t let numbers dictate your self-worth. Remember, it’s about how we feel and how we uplift others. -
Let Go of What Doesn’t Fit
If something doesn’t feel right—be it a fashion choice, a friendship, or a relationship—don’t force it. Trust your instincts and remember that you should never have to convince anyone of your value. -
Allow Yourself to Feel
It’s perfectly okay to be vulnerable when someone hurts you. Express your feelings openly, then take a step back. Don’t dwell on it; talk to your friends or me if you need support. You’ll heal and move on. -
Put Your Heart Into It
Invest yourself fully in the important aspects of life—your career, friendships, and passions. Mediocrity is acceptable in mundane tasks, but for the significant choices, pour your heart into everything you do. -
Own Your Validation
Believe in your inherent awesomeness. While I’ll always see the best in you, it’s essential that you learn to validate yourself. External approval means little if you don’t feel it from within. -
Avoid Comparing Yourself
This is one of the toughest lessons. Often, we compare our worst moments to others’ highlights. Remember, everyone has strengths and weaknesses; your uniqueness is what makes you special. -
Practice Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself. It’s easy to internalize negativity, but remember that your beliefs shape your reality. Focus on your strengths and learn from mistakes instead of dwelling on them.
Some of these lessons might only resonate after you face challenges, while others may come naturally. Life can be tough, but when it gets overwhelming, put on your favorite outfit, crank up some empowering music, and tackle it head-on.
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Summary: As Lucy grows up, I want her to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and self-love. From speaking her mind to embracing her uniqueness, these insights will guide her as she faces the ups and downs of life.