Updated: April 12, 2023
Originally Published: April 12, 2023
When my boys were quite young—ages 9, 7, and 6—an episode of PMS hit me hard while we were on a lengthy car ride. I was cranky, emotional, and craving sweets, all while trying to keep my cool. Knowing I was on the verge of losing my temper, I took a deep breath and decided it was time for a little chat about PMS.
On our way to pick up a family member for lunch, I started explaining that some women experience physical and emotional challenges during this time. I mentioned that PMS can lead to feelings of hunger, irritability, or sadness. To my relief, they listened quietly, and I felt like I was nailing this parenting thing.
Fast forward to lunch. Just as we settled in, my youngest son began to misbehave, tipping back in his chair and causing a ruckus. After addressing his behavior multiple times, he shouted something that made my blood boil: “You’re just angry because you have your period!” Suddenly, the restaurant went silent. I could feel my face turning red as everyone stared in shock.
In that moment, I excused myself from the table. When you’re in that state of mind, it’s best to step away from the situation for everyone’s sake. After that awkward lunch, I made sure to share these four key lessons with my sons:
1. PMS is a Real Experience.
I want my boys to understand that PMS is not just an excuse for my mood swings; it’s a reality for many women. I do my best to manage it, but sometimes I slip. It’s not fair, but just like if your dad came home acting all grumpy, it’s okay to notice my behavior—just do it far away from me!
2. Approach with Caution.
If they ever feel the need to mention my mood swings, I encourage them to be gentle. Shouting it out in public isn’t the way to go. It’s important to discuss sensitive topics like this with empathy. They should learn to express how they feel without being hurtful. And please, avoid phrases like “on the rag” or “bitch week”—just no.
3. A Little Pampering Goes a Long Way.
Just as I care for them when they’re sick, sometimes I’d appreciate a bit of TLC during my time of the month. A small gesture, like bringing me some chocolate or giving a foot rub, can make a world of difference. After all, women endure a lot each month—so a little kindness is always welcome.
4. Don’t Be a Jerk About It.
Ultimately, the most crucial lesson is to avoid being insensitive. It’s up to them how they respond to my PMS, but being unkind will only lead to trouble. They might not think it’s fair to deal with my mood swings, but they should consider all that women go through.
I realize this topic can seem challenging, but understanding it can foster better relationships with the women in their lives, whether now or in the future. For more insights on fertility and related topics, check out this post on intracervicalinsemination.com or visit Make a Mom for expert guidance. Additionally, Science Daily provides excellent resources on pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, teaching my sons about PMS is an essential part of their upbringing. It helps them navigate relationships with compassion and understanding, ultimately making them better partners and fathers.