A few months ago, breastfeeding moms found themselves criticized for being on their phones while nursing—dubbed “brexting,” a term that honestly makes my skin crawl. Critics argue that moms who are glued to their devices miss out on crucial bonding moments with their babies and may overlook essential feeding cues.
As a nursing mother and lactation consultant, I vehemently disagree with this line of thinking. Breastfeeding is an enormous commitment that can be quite challenging, especially in the early days. New mothers often devote at least a quarter of their day to nursing. So, the idea that texting during these hours equates to lost bonding time? I call nonsense.
Sure, there may be a few extreme cases of moms who are perpetually on their phones, but the vast majority of us spend plenty of our nursing time gazing lovingly at our babies, inhaling their sweet scents, and reveling in their beauty—often while feeling a bit overwhelmed and exhausted.
Let’s be real: breastfeeding can sometimes be tedious, and it’s completely normal for mothers to feel restless during those long nursing sessions. A little distraction can be just what we need. Plus, many of us have tasks to tackle—what better opportunity to reply to messages or emails than during a nursing session?
If new moms get the impression that breastfeeding must be a perfectly sacred experience every moment, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy. That’s not how life works. Breastfeeding should blend seamlessly into the chaotic tapestry of parenting, not feel like a separate, idealized event. Those magical moments will happen on their own, but nursing is best done amidst the beautiful chaos of everyday life.
I’ve not only texted while breastfeeding, but I’ve also managed to do nearly everything else during those sessions—especially after welcoming a second child. Here are some real-life examples of what multitasking while nursing can look like for busy moms like myself:
- I’ve nursed while taking care of personal business, helping my other child in the bathroom.
- I’ve breastfed while cleaning up messes, wiping noses, and even scrubbing crayon off the walls.
- I’ve nursed while hiking, grocery shopping, and even playing mini-golf—baby safely in a carrier.
- I’ve managed to apply makeup, bake cookies, and do various art projects—all while nursing.
- I’ve even answered the door for deliveries while nursing and have had medical appointments without missing a beat.
I’m sharing these anecdotes not to portray myself as a breastfeeding martyr but to reinforce that breastfeeding should be a fluid and normal part of our lives. New moms will find their rhythm with time.
So, the next time someone critiques how a woman nurses, remember this: breastfeeding isn’t about perfection; it’s about doing your best with what you have. It’s about making it work in your unique life, for your body and your baby. Anyone who tries to impose their views on you can kindly back off.
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In summary, navigating motherhood while breastfeeding can be a juggling act, but it’s totally okay to multitask. Finding balance and comfort in your routine is key, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for making it work in your life.