Pregnancy can be an overwhelming journey. As your body undergoes a multitude of changes, your emotions can go into overdrive. You’re often met with judgment—even from seemingly well-meaning strangers like the barista who gifts you a slice of guilt with your morning coffee. And let’s face it, you might forget that coffee in the car anyway.
Your workday drags on, filled with unsolicited advice, belly rubs, and constant reminders about what you should or shouldn’t consume. You find yourself biting your tongue when others suggest you’re being a bit too sensitive. Finally, as the day wraps up, you head to your doctor’s appointment, expecting a warm reception from someone who should be your ally during this challenging time.
When you voice your concerns about an unusual pain in your abdomen, the doctor scoffs, as if your experience is too trivial to warrant attention. His response leaves you feeling ashamed, as if admitting discomfort makes you less of a woman. At your next visit, you’re hesitant to bring up the pain again, fearing further ridicule. After all, he’s the expert, and you don’t want to seem like you’re overreacting.
But as the pain intensifies before your appointment, you can’t ignore it. Tears stream down your face as you describe the agony to your doctor, hoping for compassion this time. Instead, you’re sent to labor and delivery, only to be told the pain is just part of being pregnant. Each visit becomes a cycle of disappointment, and you find yourself questioning your own feelings.
As you approach 40 weeks, frustration mounts. Your OB refuses to check for dilation and continues to dismiss your symptoms, insisting it’s all in your head. You start to wonder, maybe it’s not you—maybe he’s just not the right fit for you.
So, I made a bold choice: I broke up with my OB. If you ever feel that your healthcare provider isn’t addressing your concerns or treating you with the respect you deserve, don’t hesitate to seek someone who will. Your health and that of your baby are paramount, no matter how far along you are.
After requesting a switch within the same healthcare system and being told it was too late, I reached out to a different practice. They were more than willing to welcome me. Just two days later, I found myself in their labor and delivery unit, still struggling with that relentless pain. This time, the doctor was not only understanding but also committed to ensuring my comfort. He treated me with the dignity I had been missing and, after 26 hours, placed my beautiful baby girl in my arms.
Later, I was back at the hospital dealing with severe health issues that had previously been dismissed. I couldn’t help but think about how my former OB had downplayed my concerns, which ultimately left me in a precarious situation.
Breaking up with my OB was the best decision I could have made. It’s crucial to advocate for yourself and your baby, and if your current provider isn’t meeting your needs, don’t hesitate to walk away. Remember, you deserve care that prioritizes your well-being.
For more insights on navigating your pregnancy journey, check out our other posts on privacy policies and how to boost your fertility. Resources like Progyny and Make a Mom can offer valuable information as you embark on this life-changing experience.
Summary
In this article, I shared my experience of switching obstetricians at 40 weeks due to a lack of empathy and understanding from my previous doctor. I emphasized the importance of advocating for yourself during pregnancy and seeking the care you deserve. Remember, it’s never too late to demand better care for you and your baby.