It’s been a long three months since my firstborn left for his first semester at college, and tonight, my heart is full. The sight of more dishes stacked in the sink and the familiar sound of the washing machine working overtime brings a smile to my face. The refrigerator door has been opened and shut so many times that I feel like we might need to replace a light bulb soon.
My son, Ethan, looks healthy and vibrant, and his excitement about life on campus fills the room. His laughter resonates in the kitchen, a sound that grips my heart with both joy and a twinge of longing.
As we gather around the dinner table, our family eagerly showers him with questions. His dad asks about classes and grades, while I can’t help but think about how just a week ago, there were no extra dishes or groceries going sour because he wasn’t here. It’s a strange adjustment to shop for a household that no longer includes his presence.
Ethan’s first semester seems to have been everything he hoped for. He walks past the mirror and proudly shares that he’s been eating healthier—more protein, less starch. I hold back the urge to remind him how easy that is at 19. He’s solid and strong; hugging him feels like wrapping my arms around a sturdy tree. When I inquire about his sleep and overall well-being, he responds positively, adding how hard he’s working and how he’s meeting amazing people. His enthusiasm is contagious, and I can’t help but feel a sense of pride.
I remember the first day he started kindergarten, a time when he was still so small. I picked him up after just a few hours, and he overflowed with excitement about his projects and what he learned that day. That joy was palpable, but it was also the moment I realized his life was beginning to include parts where I would not always be present.
Time flies. It feels like we are caught in a whirlwind of years, surrounded by memories. The green footstool I painted for him still sits in the same corner, a reminder of how he once needed it to reach the sink. It’s hard to believe it will never serve that purpose again.
Now, I find myself wanting to ask him everything. I wait for a moment of quiet to inquire about where he gets his hair cut, if there’s a great pasta place nearby, and if he felt odd the first night he was away.
- “Are your boots warm enough?”
- “Do you have a buddy system for going out? Please say yes.”
- “Why don’t I ever see pictures of you wearing a hat? Do you need a new one?”
Knowing these little details helps me picture him in the moments he’s not here. I can envision him at 9:01, 2:50, or 11:09, living his life.
Things feel different now. The duffel bag resting on the floor of his room is a constant reminder that this is just a visit. Reflect on that—your child is just visiting.
As I watch Ethan share stories about his new life, I am pleasantly surprised by how well I’m handling this transition. I always thought I would feel lost when he left, envisioning myself wandering aimlessly, grappling with the loss of daily moments together. Instead, I’m filled with joy for him, relieved that he’s thriving, and grateful for his happiness. I experience all these emotions alongside the lump in my throat, aware that while he’s home, it’s not the same as before. Yet, I’m okay. It astonishes me how love can overpower the ache I expected to feel.
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In summary, watching my son evolve into adulthood brings a mix of pride and bittersweet nostalgia. The transition is challenging, but ultimately, it’s a journey we navigate with love.