Stomach viruses in kids are all too frequent and offer zero benefits. Kids get sick; it’s simply part of childhood. As parents, we strive to be comforting figures, showing sympathy while grappling with our own feelings. Let’s be honest: no one dreams of spending their night catching vomit in their hands!
Despite this, we have a responsibility to care for our little ones, even when they’re covered in their own mess. To navigate these trying times, I’ve identified five stages of parenting a sick child. Similar to the stages of grief, these phases remind you that you’re not alone in this chaotic journey.
- Denial
The first thought that crosses my mind when my daughter becomes ill is, “She probably just overate.” In my mind, this is a minor incident that has been resolved. This means I won’t end up sick myself in a few days. It’s just like baby spit-up, but infinitely worse when I see remnants of the grapes she had for dinner. Really, there’s no issue here—right? - Frustration/Revulsion
At this stage, the anger isn’t directed at your poor little one who’s still in distress; it’s aimed at life itself. Why is this happening now, of all times? (Especially when I had plans, even if it was just to fold laundry!) This is also the moment when you confront the gut-wrenching revulsion that lingers from the first whiff of your child’s sickness. It’s a feeling that won’t depart anytime soon. - Bargaining
If I give her a warm bath, maybe she won’t throw up again. Her insides would surely prefer being clean, right? Or perhaps if I pray to the Mom Fairy, all will be well. I vow to never raise my voice at my child again. I’ll sing soothing songs, convinced that they’ll calm her stomach. I promise to clean the entire house spotless if it means avoiding another round of vomit. I just need this to be over—now! - Despair/Fear/Indecision
This is the new normal. My little one seems destined to vomit forever, and the smell of it will haunt me. I start questioning if I should consult a doctor. Is this just a garden-variety stomach bug? What if I overlook something serious? Is throw-up supposed to smell this bad? - Acceptance
Eventually, if luck is on our side, the situation will improve. After catching the last remnants of vomit in my umpteenth clean shirt, my child will likely be worn out and ready for some sleep. By morning, I’ll ponder whether a doctor visit is necessary, but for now, I can tackle the cleaning, do the laundry (and repeat), take a much-needed shower, and enjoy a drink before the chaos unfolds again.
So far, I’ve been fortunate; my biggest challenge has been a vomiting toddler who doesn’t quite grasp what’s happening. There are certainly worse challenges out there, but during those long, vomit-filled nights, I’ll hold on to these stages and look for the light at the end of the tunnel.
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Summary
Parenting a sick child can be a rollercoaster of emotions, from denial to acceptance. This guide outlines the five stages parents often experience when dealing with a vomiting child. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey, and there are resources available to help you navigate these tough times.