It was a bright September morning when my daughter was bubbling with excitement. She was about to embark on a special outing with her dad, just the two of them. Her siblings were still asleep, making this moment even more special. They were heading over to help a family friend named Lisa move. My daughter adored her, especially after having a blast at her recent birthday party.
At eight years old, her sparkling blue eyes were framed by a sun-kissed glow that made me nostalgic—why do kids tan so beautifully while my teens watch in envy? It had been a tumultuous start to the school year, with a historic flood disrupting our little town in Upstate New York. The first day of school was even shortened due to buses getting stuck in waterlogged streets. While it was an adventure for us, the chaos left the kids restless and yearning for something to do.
As her father pulled up, she dashed off after a quick hug and kiss. She relished having him to herself, especially since the past few years had been rocky after his departure. I had been forced to make a tough choice, putting my daughters first after realizing he couldn’t prioritize fatherhood over his drinking habits. Thankfully, he lived just a few blocks away.
That morning, I felt a wave of relief; he hadn’t had time to drink yet, making it a safer outing. A child services worker had warned me against letting them leave if I smelled alcohol, but it wasn’t easy to keep him from seeing them. While I felt a sense of calm, my daughter was convinced it would be a perfect day, expressing her hopes in a prayer.
About 45 minutes later, my phone rang with a chilling urgency. A first responder informed me there had been an accident. My daughter was unharmed but needed me—her father was being charged with DWI after blowing a 0.12 on the breathalyzer test, nearly double the legal limit. A wave of dread washed over me as I drove toward the scene, the anger and fear twisting inside me with every turn.
When I arrived, the sight of flashing lights and the patrol cars filled me with indescribable dread. I saw my soon-to-be ex-husband leaning against a car, and I felt nothing but disbelief. The officer informed me that he was being arrested under Leandra’s Law and asked what I wanted to do with the car, which needed to be towed. I was lost for words—how could he have been so reckless? The time was just 11 a.m. on a Sunday, and this was his visitation. My daughter was waiting in another vehicle, scared and confused.
I finally reached her and reassured her that everything would be okay, despite her tearful insistence that it was her fault. It was a drive home filled with heartbreak, overshadowed by the images of the wrecked car and the close call with a tree.
Upon our return, chaos erupted in our home. My children were angry and hurt, grappling with questions I couldn’t answer. Their dad was later brought home by the police, quickly hired a lawyer, and received a 30-day jail sentence along with probation. He still drinks.
For the safety of my children, I have legal documentation ensuring he can’t drive anyone under 18. But I can’t help but wonder—what about the other impaired drivers on the road? Alcohol has been a significant issue in my family, affecting my children daily. Just two months before the accident, I had given up drinking myself, and the near miss with my daughter haunts me. I don’t know if he was drinking that morning or had drunk the night before, but please, if you find yourself in a similar situation, opt for a cab or stay home! We were fortunate that day; many families aren’t so lucky when alcohol is involved.
As we approach summer celebrations like July 4th and Labor Day, let’s keep our loved ones safe and make responsible choices. Almost five years later, I feel compelled to share this story.
The takeaway? We can all learn from experiences like mine and work together to eliminate drinking and driving.
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Summary: This article reflects on a mother’s harrowing experience with her ex-husband’s drinking and driving incident that endangered their daughter. It emphasizes the importance of responsibility and safety, particularly as summer festivities approach, encouraging readers to make wise choices to protect their loved ones.