Let’s begin with the miracle of childbirth—arguably one of the most incredible feats of strength I’ve ever witnessed. My partner has brought three children into the world, all through C-sections. While there’s plenty of discussion around the frequency of C-sections, that’s not the focus here. What truly amazes me is that a surgeon made an incision in her abdomen, extracted a baby, and then stitched her back up—not just once, but three times.
Each time, she took it in stride like a seasoned warrior. The day after surgery, she was up and moving, though her steps were cautious and slow. Yet, there she was, pushing through the discomfort, her face reflecting a mixture of pain and determination as she made her way out of the hospital to care for our new arrival. The first time I witnessed a C-section, I almost fainted from the sight. After that, I decided I was not strong enough to endure seeing it again, let alone experiencing it myself.
Keep in mind that delivering a baby is just the dramatic conclusion of nine months filled with fluctuating hormones, emotional upheaval, and morning sickness—everything just to welcome a new life. It’s hard for me to comprehend why society has long associated women with weakness.
The reality is that the process of childbirth, with all its potential for peril, should have given every man pause for thought. Mothers must also navigate the challenges of breastfeeding—an instinctive skill that somehow newborns don’t seem to have. Suddenly, a woman transforms into a portable nutrition hub, needing to feed her child every few hours.
Watching my partner breastfeed has been nothing short of inspiring. Our child relies on her for everything, and I realize I will never experience that level of dependence. To add to the challenges, breastfeeding in public can often come with a stigma, much like a taboo. I vividly recall the first time she received a disapproving look for nursing our daughter under a blanket at a restaurant. Rather than shy away, she soldiered on, doing what was necessary to nurture our baby without regard for the judgment of others.
Throughout this journey, I’ve seen her body undergo significant change. She has a long, pink scar above her navel—larger than any scar I carry. Even if I had a matching scar, it wouldn’t hold the same weight, as it wouldn’t symbolize the creation of life. Her hips shifted, stretch marks appeared, and her breasts changed shape in ways I never anticipated. Witnessing these transformations has deepened my respect and love for her, as I appreciate the sacrifices she made to bring our children into the world.
Once the physical trials of childbirth are behind her, she faces the societal pressure to return to her pre-baby body, as if the journey of motherhood is something to be ashamed of. I’ve never had to contend with this as a father. However, watching my partner grapple with the unrealistic expectations placed upon mothers has been disheartening. It’s disgraceful how society shames mothers for the changes that come with childbirth. But seeing her rise above these pressures and embrace her new self has only reinforced my belief in her unyielding strength.
And then there are the “sanctimommies,” those who feel the need to criticize other mothers based on their parenting choices, as if there’s a perfect way to raise a child amidst the chaos and unpredictability of parenthood. The constant worry that a mother might be failing her child due to a lack of organic food or insufficient breastfeeding time is overwhelming.
Motherhood is undoubtedly a series of physical and social challenges, and this is just scratching the surface. I know some readers may not have children, and if that’s the case, this message is not for you. I’m speaking directly to those mothers who have faced these trials head-on and still find joy in raising their children. I see your strength, and I want you to know that it doesn’t matter what others think—you are infinitely stronger than I am. Your resilience is evident, and other men see it too. Keep pushing forward. Keep being the incredible force that you are.
For more insights on motherhood and parenting, check out this resource. If you’re interested in learning about insemination, this guide is a great resource too. Also, you can explore our terms and conditions to stay informed.