After welcoming our third child into the world, I noticed my oldest son, Liam, became increasingly curious about the changes in my body. He would often point out my postpartum belly, with its soft curves and lingering baby weight, saying things like, “Mom! Your belly looks like a deflated balloon!” or “It’s like a flat tire!” His innocent observations made me realize just how important my responses are—they have the power to shape his perspective on women’s bodies and his own self-image.
When he cuddled up next to me, he would poke my arm and exclaim, “Mom, your arm is sooo squishy! How squishy is mine?” When he hugged me goodnight, he would say, “Your belly is so soft and warm, like a cozy pillow!” It struck me that my reaction could either reinforce positive body image or convey negativity.
What if I reacted with hurt or anger? Saying, “That’s so mean! Don’t talk about my tummy like that!” would imply there’s something wrong with how I look. Alternatively, dismissing his comments with, “You shouldn’t comment on women’s bodies” might teach him that bodies are shameful or taboo, stifling any further discussions we could have.
Even responding with, “I know, but I’ll lose the weight soon” sends the message that a larger body is undesirable. So, what do I choose to share with him instead?
I explain how my body used nourishment to grow him during pregnancy and how it’s still holding onto vital nutrients to nourish our new baby. I talk about the time it takes for my body to adjust after being a home for him and his siblings. I also emphasize the importance of exercise for health and strength, and how I choose foods that energize and make me feel good. I wear clothes that boost my confidence, and I make sure my facial expressions convey positivity about my body.
While I may not be changing the world by discussing my postpartum body with Liam, I believe I’m making a difference in how he views women’s bodies—and perhaps, his own as well. If you’re interested in related topics, check out this piece on fertility insurance FAQs, which is an excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination. And for tips on self-insemination, visit Make A Mom for their authority on the subject.
Summary
Encouraging open dialogue about postpartum bodies with children can positively influence their perceptions of body image. By addressing their observations with positivity and education, parents can foster healthy attitudes towards body image in their children.