We all have our opinions about parenting until we actually become parents ourselves (unless, of course, you’re one of those “experts” whose child is the one running wild in the playground). When I embarked on this parenting journey, I was convinced there were certain behaviors I would never adopt. While some of my intentions have held firm—like limiting screen time, opting for positive discipline, and understanding developmental stages—there are several resolutions I’ve found myself bending. Here are ten habits I thought I’d never embrace:
- Co-Sleeping
I was determined that my kids would sleep soundly in their cribs. But once they hit the age of two, our bed became the ultimate destination at 3:00 a.m. What do you do? You end up squishing your child between you like a piece of clay and drift back to sleep because, honestly, moving upstairs feels like an impossible trek at that hour. - Cooking Separate Meals
I used to believe that my children would eat whatever I prepared. However, there are nights when I stray from our usual menu of burgers and spaghetti, leading to protests that rival a pop concert. Sometimes, I cave and whip up an alternative meal because, let’s be real—I’d rather not listen to them complain about hunger. - Allowing Screen Time
I recall a younger version of myself who vowed her kids would never watch TV. Fast forward to my second pregnancy, and I discovered that the television quickly became my go-to babysitter during those exhausting early months. - Bargaining With Kids
In my childhood, my parents’ word was law, and I expected to do the same. Yet, some days, I find myself giving in to negotiations over just one more episode of their favorite show or a few extra bites of veggies. Sometimes, you just want the battle to end. - Maintaining Our Pre-Kid Lifestyle
I once thought I’d effortlessly bring my baby along on all adventures. But that first flight with a colicky infant taught me otherwise. Vacations can quickly turn into a mix of sleepless nights and inconvenient accommodations. - Being Flexible on Bedtimes
I used to think I’d be strict about bedtime. Yet, there are evenings when “just a few more minutes” turns into an hour. Watching one more episode is often far more appealing than enforcing a strict bedtime routine. - Breakfasting on Sugar
While I aim to provide nutritious meals, there are days when Pop-Tarts seem like the only feasible option. Mornings can be chaotic, and when kids request sugary cereals over whole foods, I sometimes give in to the easier choice. - Trying to Control Everything
Before parenthood, I read countless parenting books and crafted charts to encourage my child’s independence. But then reality hit, and I found myself grappling with the reality that kids don’t always follow the plan—especially when they decide to test boundaries. - Letting Kids Bend the Rules
Jumping on the bed is a rite of passage for little ones. While I once thought this behavior was off-limits, I now find joy in watching them embrace their childhood—even if it occasionally leads to bumps and bruises. - Accepting a Messy Home
I never imagined I’d become the parent who needs a map to navigate through the chaos of toys and laundry. While I initially fought against the mess, I’ve learned that it’s okay for my home to be lived in. As long as the essentials are clean, I can let go of the clutter.
Ultimately, parenting is about evolving and accepting that some habits aren’t as detrimental as I once thought. One day, I’ll miss those cozy 3:00 a.m. cuddles. For more insights on parenthood and self-insemination, you can check out this informative post and get resources from Make A Mom for home insemination kits. For additional guidance on pregnancy, visit CCRM IVF’s blog.
Summary
Navigating parenthood often leads to unexpected changes in our beliefs and practices. While I once swore to avoid certain habits, I’ve learned that flexibility and understanding are crucial. From co-sleeping to embracing a messy home, these experiences shape our parenting journey.