When will you have children?
If you’re a woman—especially if you’re married—it’s highly likely that you’ve faced this question about starting a family. For those grappling with infertility, such inquiries can feel invasive and frustrating, as they often overlook the difficult journey of trying to conceive. Here’s how women dealing with infertility might wish to respond to that probing, “When are you having kids?”
- After I’ve had my hysterosalpingogram, ensuring my fallopian tubes are clear, and I’ve endured a massive HCG trigger shot in my rear to prompt ovulation, followed by a carefully timed insemination with sperm that’s been meticulously processed for optimal motility.
- Honestly? That’s a personal question.
- When I’m under general anesthesia for egg retrieval, after weeks of injectable hormones, and once those eggs are fertilized in a lab—thanks to sperm from my partner, who had to produce it in less-than-ideal conditions.
- When do you think is the right time for me?
- As soon as I can navigate this complex journey to pregnancy.
- Whenever you figure out not to ask that question again.
- I’m working on that—do you want to reach out to my reproductive endocrinologist? They could give you a detailed update on my situation, including my latest blood work and ultrasound results. Just a heads up, it might take a while due to privacy regulations, but the information could be worth the wait.
- We just made the attempt today, but it’s still too early to know.
- Maintain eye contact and let out an exaggerated scream until the person feels utterly bewildered. Pause to catch your breath, then continue to stare silently until they walk away, thoroughly confused and unlikely to ever ask anyone that question again.
This article was originally published on December 23, 2016.
For more insightful discussions on these topics, check out our other blog posts like this one. If you’re exploring options for starting a family, Make a Mom provides valuable resources and tools. Additionally, Resolve is an excellent platform for understanding various family-building options, including pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, while the question “When are you having kids?” may seem innocent, it can be loaded with meaning for those facing infertility. Women in this situation might have various responses ranging from straightforward to humorous, reflecting their unique challenges and frustrations.