For the first time in over ten years, both of my kids are in school for the entire day. That means I have six glorious hours at home — all by myself. Sure, I’m working from home, so it’s not like I’m lounging around all day, but apart from my two mischievous dogs, I’m completely alone. And let me tell you, it’s pure bliss.
Don’t get me wrong: I adore my family. But every now and then, a woman just needs a serene house without the constant din of sports commentary, wrestling matches in the living room, or a full-blown argument over who gets to play on the Xbox next. Living in a house dominated by boys—two sons and a husband—means things can get a bit raucous. Let’s be honest, it’s often loud as heck around here, and there’s only so much noise a person can handle before craving a little peace.
Not long ago, my kids were home for an extended holiday break. While it was delightful to swap structured schedules for lazy mornings in pajamas and movie marathons, I began to feel a bit stir-crazy after a few weeks. The morning they returned to school, I might have done a little celebratory jig in my kitchen. Then, I got back to work like any responsible adult.
The reality is, while I cherish my family and the time we share, I also need my solitude—quite a bit of it. When I have time alone, I can breathe, think, and even enjoy using the bathroom without worrying about little ones barging in.
Alone Time vs. Me Time
Alone time is not quite the same as “me time,” although there can be some overlap. Me time typically involves indulgent activities—like a weekend spa day, a night out with friends, or a romantic dinner. These are the moments we carve out to nurture our spirits amidst the whirlwind of parenting. While me time is essential, it’s distinct from alone time.
Alone time means just that: being by yourself. It doesn’t matter whether I’m working, organizing the closet, journaling, or simply browsing online shopping sites; as long as I’m doing it uninterrupted, it counts.
Finding Alone Time
For many parents, especially those who stay at home, the concept of alone time may seem unattainable. But it doesn’t have to mean long stretches of free time or elaborate escapes. Alone time can be as simple as taking a few extra minutes in the bathroom or enjoying a quiet walk around the block after the kids are asleep.
Of course, there are sacrifices involved in carving out alone time. It might mean sacrificing sleep, missing out on a girls’ night, or sitting in the car a few minutes longer while everyone else goes inside. A few mornings each week, I wake up before dawn just to steal a few moments of solitude. I exercise, check my emails, and gently ease into the day with a bit of stillness. Even when I’m exhausted, those early quiet minutes are invaluable. Sometimes, a little creativity is necessary—nothing clears the house faster than declaring that it’s “that time of the month” and I’m going to spend the afternoon cleaning in a rage.
This alone time—when I’m not busy being a wife or a mom—isn’t a luxury; it’s essential. In these tranquil moments, I reconnect with myself, enabling me to be the best wife and mother I can be the rest of the time.
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In summary, while family time is precious, alone time is equally crucial for maintaining balance in a busy household. Embracing both allows me to thrive as a mother and a partner.