Playdates used to leave me utterly drained when my children were younger. I would try to brace myself for the inevitable chaos, but honestly, I often preferred quieter afternoons spent reading, playing in the sandbox, or visiting the playground with my kids. While I participated in these gatherings, I wasn’t always eager to host them. Each playdate felt like a marathon, and I found myself needing a breather for weeks after each one.
With three little ones at home, they could entertain each other quite well, and trust me, they could turn the house upside down in no time. Add a few more kids to the mix, and I’d be ready to pull my hair out by the time they left. But now that my kids are in their teenage and tween years, I genuinely love having their friends over. In fact, I actively encourage it! Weekends and school breaks? Bring them on! Maybe I’m reliving my own youth a bit too much, but I don’t mind at all. Our home is always open to their friends, and part of it stems from my guilt for not hosting more when they were younger.
Here’s why I cherish having the gathering place for all the kids:
They Take Care of Themselves.
These days, the teens fend for themselves, and they entertain each other with minimal supervision. I just ensure there’s plenty of food available and encourage them to help themselves whenever they’re hungry. The lively music vibrating through the house makes me feel like I’m at a fun concert. They’re engaged, they’re happy, and when they affectionately call me “Mama Reynolds,” it warms my heart. It shows they feel comfortable here, and when my baked goods disappear in a flash, I can’t help but feel like a rockstar.
I Witness Their Friendships Flourish.
It’s incredible to see the strong bonds my kids are forming—connections that remind me of the days when I first started building lasting friendships. At this age, having a close-knit group is vital, especially as they navigate the ups and downs of adolescence.
Teenagers Bring the Laughter.
Sure, they can have their moody moments, but they also have a fantastic sense of humor. I can joke with them, engage in discussions about politics, and they even tease me back! They keep me feeling young and trendy—well, at least in my mind (I’ve been told to stop using the term “lit”).
I Stay Involved in Their Lives.
As parents, we’re always there for our kids, yet during their teenage years, it can be challenging to know what’s happening in their world. Friends become their top priority, and they naturally start to distance themselves from family. I remember feeling the same way at their age; friends were everything. I want my kids and their friends to know they can always hang out here. While I might not join in on their activities, I’m close enough to feel connected. Of course, I might eavesdrop a bit, but it’s my house, and I can do what I want! Plus, the other parents appreciate my involvement.
So, until my kids are off on their own (oh, the thought!), I’ll keep my door wide open, always have something delicious baking, and embrace the lively music filling our home—because it won’t be long before things quiet down. I hope that when my kids’ friends venture out into the world, they’ll return to visit, still calling me “Mama Reynolds” and enjoying a plate of cookies that disappear in no time. I know I’ll miss these moments dearly.
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Summary:
Having a home where my children’s friends gather has transformed from a source of stress to a great joy. The teens entertain themselves, form meaningful friendships, and create an atmosphere filled with laughter. I cherish staying involved in their lives, providing a safe space where they can always feel welcome. As I embrace this lively chapter, I look forward to the memories we are creating together.