I started my journey into womanhood at 12 and a half when I got my first period during band practice (yes, while wearing white pants). Later that day, my mom handed me a box of tampons and told me to “read the instructions.” There was no grand ceremony or heartwarming talk about womanhood. No Queen Latifah appeared to serenade me with empowering songs. Just a quiet moment marking the beginning of my intricate relationship with my vagina.
Now that I’ve embraced my 30s, I’ve come to terms with many of my body insecurities. I can confidently say that my vagina is definitely on my side now. Here are some essential lessons I’ve learned:
Birth Control Choices Matter
Not every contraceptive method suits everyone. Some can lead to unwanted side effects, while others simply don’t align with personal preferences. I discovered that for me, natural birth control methods, like the rhythm method, were the most effective option. Yes, I had to avoid certain foods like soy that can disrupt hormonal balance, and I paused my sexual activity for a few months to keep track of my menstrual symptoms (thank you, vagina journal!). However, the rewards of being in tune with my body far outweighed these small sacrifices. Plus, I love that my body is free from artificial hormones.
Childbirth Is a Beautiful Experience
I remember asking my mother about her experience with natural childbirth when I was three months pregnant. Her casual response was, “Eh, it’s not that bad. You’ll be fine.” Those words echoed in my mind throughout my labor. While childbirth is no simple feat, the dramatic portrayals often seen in movies don’t reflect reality. Women are designed to give birth, and regardless of how you choose to do it, our bodies are remarkable. Your birth story is uniquely yours.
Nourishing My Vagina
Ten years ago, I transitioned to a mostly plant-based diet, and the benefits were astonishing. I experienced increased energy, clearer skin, and even my nails and hair grew faster. But one of the most delightful surprises? A more vibrant and healthier vagina. Regardless of your dietary choices, certain foods can support vaginal health. Fruits like pineapple, cranberries, and even garlic can keep things fresh while helping prevent infections. If you’re prone to bacterial vaginosis, coconut oil acts as a natural antibacterial, promoting a healthy balance of bacteria. So when you’re shopping, don’t forget to pick up treats for our favorite downstairs neighbor!
The Importance of Sex
There’s an old saying that love and sex are intertwined, but I’ve learned to challenge that notion for my own well-being. Embracing my sexuality while happily single made a significant difference in my life. Studies show that a healthy sex life can enhance mood and reduce stress. Plus, it can burn around 250 calories. Regular intimacy shouldn’t be limited to committed relationships; single life should also be fulfilling. If anyone questions your dating app usage, just remind them that you’re on a mission to improve the world—one orgasm at a time.
A New Perspective on Intimacy
As I navigated my 30s, I discovered that sex can take on a whole new dimension. Contrary to my previous beliefs, the experience of intimacy often improves with age. Research indicates that women aged 27 to 45 tend to be more sexually active than those in their late teens and early twenties. Interestingly, men may experience a decline in their sex drive during this time, which adds a humorous twist to the dynamics.
Above all, the most significant lesson I’ve learned about my vagina is that it is mine, unequivocally. Women today have the opportunity to reclaim our bodies, whether we were born with them, chose to have them, or are in the process of transitioning. The well-being of our intimate parts is firmly in our own hands. We are powerful, and the source of that power lies between our thighs—a reminder of our strength since that pivotal day in junior high.
For more insights on this topic, check out this blog post that dives deeper into self-discovery and empowerment. If you’re exploring options for starting a family, Make a Mom provides valuable resources for couples on their fertility journey. For those considering pregnancy or home insemination, NHS offers excellent information that can help guide your choices.
In summary, embracing my vagina in my 30s has been an enlightening journey filled with self-discovery, empowerment, and a deeper understanding of my body.