In 2011, I found myself without a job after a surprising layoff from my position in a busy marketing firm in the city. My daily grind consisted of a grueling three-hour round trip commute from my suburban home, often accompanied by a stranger’s elbow in my side. I was ready to find something closer to home, but life had other plans. Fast forward six years, and I realize I had no clue what I was signing up for when I embraced the stay-at-home mom life.
My career began in the publishing industry while I was still in college, culminating in a 6-credit internship that turned into a full-time gig. I spent over a decade working for a well-known media company, loving the fast pace but loathing the commute. When I was let go, I felt a mix of surprise and relief.
In the year leading up to my layoff, I had started dabbling in creating custom art for friends, mostly as gifts. Just nine days after losing my job, I launched my Etsy shop, Crafty Frames, and I’ve been crafting away in my home office since.
Now, let me clarify: I’m not complaining. This is simply my journey as a stay-at-home mom, and everyone’s path is different. In fact, many would gladly trade places with me. While I face my challenges, I acknowledge how fortunate I am.
Dressing Down
One of the biggest perks? I can roll out of bed without worrying about my appearance. The moms at the bus stop certainly don’t judge, and I can assure you that the cashiers at the local craft store don’t bat an eye either. I’m fully embracing the comfy lifestyle of leggings and oversized sweatshirts. However, there’s a risk in letting myself go too far—before I know it, I’m back to college days, raiding the pantry in my PJs. Is this really adulting?
The Fridge: My Bestie
Oh, how I adore my refrigerator. Always there, keeping my snacks cold and my leftovers fresh. But for someone lacking in self-control, this close relationship has led to an unwelcome weight gain. Could I make healthier choices? Sure, but the thought of it doesn’t inspire me.
Beverage Indulgences
And then there’s my fondness for a good drink. Back when I was a working professional, this was a rare pleasure. But now, with my flexible schedule, I find myself enjoying more evenings in with my friends, and yes, wine is a frequent guest at these gatherings. Coupled with my snack habits, I’ve added a few extra pounds that have necessitated a larger size in my leggings.
Running the Show
Owning my own business has its perks. It offers flexibility and a bit of extra income. However, I’m also my own tech support, accountant, and printer repair technician—none of which I’m particularly skilled at. I went from a bustling office filled with talented colleagues to a solitary basement workspace, often battling spiders and my own sanity.
From Financial Contributor to Dependent
Transitioning from being the primary income earner to feeling like a financial burden has been tough. My venture into entrepreneurship contributes some income, but I’m not exactly rolling in dough. While I know what’s mine is also my family’s, I can’t shake the feeling of not contributing enough, especially when my shopping habits have shifted from trendy boutiques to discount racks.
Time: The Real Treasure
Ultimately, the biggest gift I’ve received from this lifestyle is time. Time with my kids, time to be present with my husband, and time to explore new opportunities. I cherish the moments spent making lunches, getting the kids on the bus, and enjoying spontaneous afternoons at home. Knowing that not everyone is afforded this luxury makes me appreciate it even more—even if I do look a bit like I just rolled out of bed every day.
Having experienced both the working mom and stay-at-home mom sides, I’ve learned that it’s not the job title that defines your worth as a parent. What truly matters is that your kids feel loved and safe, and that your wine rack stays full.
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In summary, my journey as a stay-at-home mom has been filled with unexpected challenges and delightful surprises. Each day brings new lessons, and through it all, I’ve learned that the most important thing is creating a loving environment for my family.