Dear Emily,
The world you’ve entered is undeniably chaotic. I’m genuinely sorry that it isn’t structured in a way that treats women as equals. There will be many who underestimate you simply because of your gender.
I regret that people will form opinions about you based on your appearance. No matter your intellect, empathy, or courage, these qualities may go unnoticed if you wear something they find inappropriate. Some will attempt to shame you, hurling degrading labels like “slut” or “whore,” all while masquerading their judgment as decency. Remember, it’s they who need to learn the meaning of respect.
You must define your own comfort and confidence, unaffected by their narrow-minded views.
I apologize that you will often have to prove your intelligence simply because you’re a woman. You might present a brilliant argument only to be dismissed with comments about being “too emotional.” I’m sorry that your voice may be overlooked simply due to your gender.
Stay true to yourself, don’t let their ignorance silence you.
I’m sorry that your brother may have an easier path because he is male. If you both start at the same job, it’s likely he will earn more, even though you both contribute equally. Unfortunately, you may find yourself passed over for promotions and recognition, despite your qualifications, just because you are a woman.
While I hope for a better future where equality prevails, I want you to be aware of these challenges so you can advocate for yourself confidently. You are strong and courageous; never forget that.
I’m sorry that because I’ve taught you it’s okay to express emotions, some may perceive you as weak. I’m sorry that your natural bodily functions, like menstruation, will be met with judgment, with people dismissing your feelings as mere hormonal fluctuations. Never let them shame you for your body.
If you choose to become a parent, others may criticize your decision to work outside the home, claiming it detracts from your children. Conversely, if you decide to stay home, some may think you’re taking the easy road. Your choices are yours alone, and you should follow what ignites your passion, whether that involves children or a career, or both.
I regret that the world outside may not reflect the respect you find here at home. But amidst this darkness, there is hope. Many are tirelessly working for a brighter future for you. We are contacting our elected officials, rallying together at protests, and using social media to raise awareness. We’re confronting victim-blaming attitudes and battling for your rights, including reproductive freedom and equal pay.
While the path for women remains fraught with challenges, don’t lose sight of the progress being made. We are advocating for you and for generations to come. Being a woman is not a burden; it is a source of strength, beauty, and resilience. So, hold your head high, and let your voice be heard.
With all my love and support,
Mom