An Open Letter to the Self-Proclaimed Parenting Expert on Kids and Technology

To the author of yet another open letter criticizing parents for letting their children use iPads in public spaces:

I find it perplexing why these letters continue to surface on various platforms. It’s not as if the arguments presented are novel; they have been articulated countless times before. Instead of reiterating the same tired rhetoric, let’s focus on a more pressing concern: your tendency to intrude on others’ parenting choices. The intent behind your missive seems less about enlightening fellow parents and more about elevating your own parenting credentials, as if your perspective is the definitive guide to proper child-rearing. Bravo for momentarily loosening your grip on your moral high ground to pen your judgmental diatribe.

Now, let’s address your bullet points on why parents should refrain from using modern technology to secure a brief respite in a public dining setting.

“Your children desire your attention.”

Let’s be candid. If given the choice, my kids would choose a tablet with an endless data plan over my company without hesitation. They may appreciate my attention, but they also profoundly enjoy binge-watching their favorite shows. I am more than willing to cheer them on as they leap off the jungle gym for the umpteenth time, but I also cherish moments of adult conversation with my partner. There’s no guilt in seeking balance in parenting.

“You’ll lose their interest.”

Just because our children will eventually outgrow us in their teenage years doesn’t mean we need to devote every waking moment to them during the early years. Hovering excessively can lead to them becoming rather tired of our presence when adolescence hits. Healthy boundaries in attention are essential for both parents and children.

“You’re neglecting conversation skills.”

Your limited observation of a family across a table of nachos does not reflect their comprehensive parenting approach. It’s entirely plausible they engage in meaningful discussions at home. However, regardless of their dining choices, it’s vital to remember that their parenting decisions are none of your business.

“You’re setting poor examples.”

Your assertion that allowing children access to iPads during meals equates to poor parenting is misguided. A truly terrible example is being judgmental and instilling in children the notion that they are superior to others based on arbitrary standards.

“It disrupts the dining experience.”

Children can be noisy and disruptive; this is a reality. Yet, for every rant about iPads at the dinner table, there are counter-rants about parents who dare to venture out with their children, as if their existence is an affront to society. Your condescending advice to try device-free dinners suggests a lack of understanding of the challenges parents face, particularly those who may not have access to babysitters.

When I see a family dining out with kids engrossed in a show while parents converse, my response is a simple thumbs-up for prioritizing their well-being. For many families, options like babysitters are not feasible, and if using a tablet is their most significant parenting faux pas, they are likely doing much better than many.

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In summary, it’s crucial to respect diverse parenting choices rather than imposing judgment. Everyone’s journey is different, and what works for one family may not work for another.