The Importance of Friendships Beyond Romantic Partnerships

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Recent discussions surrounding marital dynamics often oscillate between two extremes. On one end, there are grievances about how a spouse can overlook basic tasks, such as finding an item right in front of them. (Cue the sighs.) On the other, there are declarations of having the most wonderful partner, with sentiments of being “hashtag blessed.” (And yes, cue the eye-roll.)

To be candid, my partner, Alex, is quite remarkable. We have shared 13 years of marriage and over 17 years of companionship. While we’ve certainly experienced our share of highs and lows, and he can occasionally drive me to distraction, he remains my favorite individual. He embodies more than just a companion—he is my teammate, lover, confidant, and my best friend, all rolled into one beautifully imperfect character.

However, despite being my favorite person (with my children a close second), it is crucial to acknowledge that my husband cannot fulfill every role in my life. No single person can shoulder that burden. This is where my close friends, like Jenna, come into play.

While Alex knows me intimately and is a trusted confidant, he tends to lose interest when the conversation turns to subjects like menstrual discomfort or the nuances of various contraceptive methods. He is also not particularly keen on discussing what constitutes a fashion faux pas or speculating on the latest celebrity breakups.

Our spouses, while exceptional, cannot replace the unique bond we share with our girlfriends. Although my husband is indeed a friend, he is not my best friend. Sharing grievances about household chores with my friends can be liberating, while venting to Alex about him often leads to misunderstandings.

Romantic evenings can be delightful and are essential for a thriving marriage, but they cannot substitute for a weekend getaway with friends, where laughter might lead to the occasional accident. Date nights do not replace the joy of a shared spa day or a leisurely brunch filled with gossip and mimosas. My girlfriends and I can reminisce about my culinary mishaps from college and poke fun at our youthful romantic choices (thankfully, we all made wise decisions regarding our husbands).

Maintaining connections with friends who knew us long before marriage or parenthood is vital. They remind us of our true selves—the girl with glasses, the awkward teen, and the adventurous young adult unafraid to try new things. These friendships provide a sense of identity, reflecting who we were, who we are, and who we aspire to be.

In the whirlwind of life, we often find ourselves juggling various responsibilities. While we cherish our time with the partners we have chosen to build a life with, it is equally important not to overlook our friendships. We need our friends just as they need us; nurturing these bonds is essential.

Conversations with our friends can be as simple as sharing emojis or gifs. We can confide in them about particularly tough days, knowing that they will listen without attempting to “fix” everything. They understand the complexities of womanhood, from the challenges of mother-daughter relationships to the frustrations of professional setbacks. They see the struggles we face as women navigating this world.

While our spouses are incredible, and the partnership we share is often our most significant relationship, it is essential to recognize that it is not the sole bond worth cultivating. Expecting one person to meet all our emotional needs can create undue pressure and strain on the relationship.

So, consider reaching out to your best friend—perhaps through a quick text since we all have busy lives. Plan a girls’ night, even if it’s a few weeks away. Share a heartfelt article about the importance of female friendships or simply send a fun emoji. It doesn’t take much to show you care; she understands the demands of life.

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In summary, while our partners fulfill essential roles in our lives, they cannot replace the unique connections we share with our girlfriends. Embracing both relationships enriches our lives and helps us maintain a sense of self.